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Old 02-10-2014, 19:25   #1
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Time to go sailing

Hello to all. I am new to this, so bare with me. I will cut to the chase. I have sailed the Caribbean Islands for the past 25 years and have been to almost every one of them. I have just put my 46' up for sail because my wife pasted away from breast cancer.... (please get tested She was only 52.) and she is too big for just me. So, if anybody needs some help getting to or sailing the Islands I can help starting around the first of Nov. Thanks for your time. Carl S/V On Holiday Again
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Old 02-10-2014, 19:33   #2
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Hi Carl and welcome to the forum.

So sorry to hear about your losing your wife and also your cruising life.

Have you thought about getting a smaller boat? Wherever life takes you good luck.
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Old 02-10-2014, 20:06   #3
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Thanks ....She pasted just 3 months ago, but was down for much longer, so I am just now getting back to thinking about my future. Yes but down the road. I am only 55 and in very good shape, so I will see what happens down the road. Thanks again Carl
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Hi Carl,

Three months is not long to get over the loss. My mother died one year ago. My parents were married for 65 years and my 90 year old father is just now getting to the point where he is trying to resume a normal life. I hope for you time will help as it has for him.

So where are you currently docked and what kind of boat do you have? Living on the boat or have a house on the dirt?
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Old 03-10-2014, 06:53   #5
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Carl,

Welcome to the forum, and sorry it's under such difficult circumstances... I hope you get out soon and are able to help others with your vast knowledge...
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Sorry to hear about your loss. I''ll give you the same advise as I was given when faced with a similar situation...don't make a major decision for a year, right now your not in the right frame of mind. Keep your boat and sell it in a year if you still feel the same way.
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Very sorry for your loss.

I think he is offering to crew?
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Very sorry for your loss.

I think he is offering to crew?
Sounds like it to me... Or skip a boat for an inexperienced crew... Somebody get this man back in his element!
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Hi Carl,

Three months is not long to get over the loss. My mother died one year ago. My parents were married for 65 years and my 90 year old father is just now getting to the point where he is trying to resume a normal life. I hope for you time will help as it has for him.

So where are you currently docked and what kind of boat do you have? Living on the boat or have a house on the dirt?
Good morning to all and Thanks for all the nice thoughts. She is a Beneteau Oceanis 463. She is moored in the Blue Lagoon in St. Vincent. I am home with family in Michigan. I am going to drive my parents from here to Sarasota starting Oct 12. and then
stay in Tampa for some time. Yes I could crew or help out in some other way for the wright adventure. Again thanks for your thoughts. Carl
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Carl so sorry for your loss. I'd echo the advice about not making major changes for a year. I haven't been through it so I don't understand but have walked with friends and family who have and attended counseling. All were given that advice.

My best advice is to grieve and not try to power through it. I'm watching a friend who did and I'm truly worried about him now 2 years later.



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Aloha and welcome aboard!
I offer my condolences in the loss of your wife and I hope a sailor here can find room for you on their boat.
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Welcome. We feel your pain man. Live on, as she would have wanted you to.
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Welcome and prayers are sent your way. I had a similar situation in a similar life (I seemed to have lived many) and while the suggestion to wait probably seems insignificant it is not. Leave the boat where it is, get through grieving- we never stop but it does subside, then in a year or so think about what you want to do. You may find a person in a similar situation that you could take on as crew or just get different crew as they come along. There are lots of people out there that would love the opportunity to crew with you- don't give up your life style right now- You've been through a lot- even though she was ill for a while and you might think you were prepared we never are. Be with family and friends for a while, lean on them, support each other. You will know after a while the right thing to do for you.
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