Dude, in America we have an awesome saying called Murphy's Law which says if something can happen, it will happen.
According to Murphy's Law if you buy a cheap
boat in the states thinking it will be so much less expensive than one you can buy in Europe
if you just sail it across the ocean, and that cheap
boat has the potential to break down in the middle of the ocean in the midst of a gale causing you terrible grief, well then that cheap boat will most certainly break down in the middle of the ocean in the midst of a gale and cause you terrible grief.
Murphy's Law also applies to the internet
where sometimes people go to get external validation for their foolish ideas but end up being told things they don't want to hear.
For example, if you start out telling the world you and your wife and two kids
and big dog want to live on a boat but complain that new boats too expensive, then proceed to ask very basic questions about the best way to undertake an epic tans-oceanic voyage singlehanded on an older boat without prior singlehanded experience, well then, according to Murphy's Law strangers are going to read your postings and respond by telling you things you don't want to hear.
It's just how it works.
If I had known you were so emotionally sensitive I would have coddled you more as my intent isn't to make you feel bad, but really crossing an ocean is serious business.
My crossing last summer was a delivery
with someone like yourself who thought buying
a boat in the states and sailing it to Europe
was a way to get the boat he wanted but couldn't otherwise afford. The boat was old and had not been the best maintained and my friend had both a limited budget
and a schedule to keep.
Even though he had owned and sailed the boat in the states for a year prior and he had made just about every possible preparation, we still got the crap beat out of us and in the end, he failed to achieve his goals because he was ultimately unrealistic and over-reaching.
Before our departure my wife and I considered backing out due to schedule conflicts knowing my friend would have carried on regardless without us. In hindsight it is very clear he would not have made it even to the Azores
if he had tried to do it alone. On our trip we tore sails
and broke gear
as one does with older boats crossing the ocean and we ended up having to hand steering
pretty much the whole way across.
Singlehanded? Yeah maybe on a boat set up specifically for it. One with at least three back-up autopilots.
Also, it might be a good idea to have a plan for how you are going to get yourself up the mast
alone in 5 meter swells to cut away a leach cord on a mainsail
that shredded while hove to in sixty knot
winds and got itself wrapped around the remaining running backstay that isn't broken so that you can drop the mainsail
and put up a back-up mainsail so you can survive the gale that wasn't forecast
but spontaneously developed behind you before rolling right over you and is going park itself in front of you for the next five days.
Hopefully your wife will read this and talk some sense into you. Saying you are a pilot for fifteen years makes you sound arrogant. Saying you think you are safer sailing singlehanded than with crew makes you sound wildly imprudent.
Yeah, I am still wishing you good luck. Clearly you need it.