Common Etiquette screw ups for novices

[Orion Jim]

I had just cleared customs when a large boat was approaching the dock. I walked down to the remaining open spot and offered to take a line, the skipper thanked me and asked me to take a bow line. I waited in position and the crew member in the bow, who could have handed me the line, promptly threw forty feet of dock line at my face. I chalked it up to inexperienced crew. I have learned to instruct the crew to hand me a line if close enough or throw it at my feet. No good deed goes unpunished......

[Cadence]

Originally Posted by sv_pelagia

Not if there are 70 boats in anchorage... [emoji15]

In likelihood probably only 10% at max. are occupier at any given time.
Just ribbing since I remember those days of direct discharge. As someone said there is a lot of after dark discharge which is given a blind eye. Three miles isn't that far on a coast, inland waters is another story.

[KP44]

Once in a while my bow gets cleated so close by a friendly dock person the stern can not get to the dock.
If you take a line to help, use a cleat, It is far stronger than you are. But only make a wrap on the cleat and don't make it fast unless the skipper asks you to. Always listen to the skipper unless a collision is about to happen.

[sv_pelagia]

Originally Posted by Cadence

In likelihood probably only 10% at max. are occupied at any given time.

99% occupied in Desolation Sound (sadly, 70 boats in an anchorage in the area is not unusual in July/August)

[SVSOLITAIRE]

Originally Posted by LittleWing77

This was a strange thing I noticed this Summer with all the newbie boaters out there (at least I think it may've been because of newbie boaters...?):



It's sort of an unwritten rule that if you happen to be standing around nearby where any boat is coming in to dock (power OR sail, regardless of your experience), you immediately go over an offer to take a line (while also requesting what line they would like you to take or how they are orchestrating their own docking - i.e. not interfering with how they are going to play it).



I don't know if it is just ingrained in me because of being on docks for so long, but this Summer, I noticed a bit of a contast to 'usual', because I was automatically (still) doing that, and the gap seemed to be that others around me weren't...



Strange, eh? I just thought we all did this for each other.



It didn't piss me off or anything - I just found it curious.



Happy sailing, All,

Warmly,

LittleWing77

I wonder how much of this is covid related, nobody wanting to interfere with others space. Also I can totally see being timid as a newcomer and A) not knowing B) being nervous to just jump right in.

Hopefully good seasoned sailors will set a good example and this won’t be a trend.

[Spot]

Asking for Grey Poupon mustard while improperly dressed?


Seemed like people were willing to lend a hand at the local public dock this last season COVID or not. Boats on my local lake are generally small enough that cleating off is not necessary, just a hand on the bow or stern line until crew can disembark and then they can cleat as they see fit.

[sailingabe41ds]

Originally Posted by SVSOLITAIRE

I wonder how much of this is covid related, nobody wanting to interfere with others space. Also I can totally see being timid as a newcomer and A) not knowing B) being nervous to just jump right in.

Hopefully good seasoned sailors will set a good example and this won’t be a trend.

When I started sailing 30 years ago ...everybody wanted to help as you were coming into the slip. My problem was how not to sound impolite and letting them know I am okay I do not need help for fear that they would pull the bow line to tight. Now...and even before Covid.... I rarleyt see anyone helping anybody any more. Maybe it is a generational thing....or maybe it is because I am California...I don't know.

Abe

[flightlead404]

Originally Posted by sailingabe41ds

Friend sailing couple who invite to their boat for a drink....only to found they were swingers (and much older than you and your wife)

So if they're the same age or younger its ok?

Ageist! lol

[sailingabe41ds]

Originally Posted by flightlead404

So if they're the same age or younger its ok?

Ageist! lol

Well....if younger and attractive I would have prayed as God is my heart ....but the Devil is in my pants.

Abe

[goboatingnow]

Ugly people who think they are beautiful and entitled.

ah so beautiful people are " entitled" , I see !

[flightlead404]

Originally Posted by sailingchiro

Favorites:
1. loud rap music at anchor

Loud any music. Why pick on rap? Rap from the 80's to mid 90's is great!

Beats the pants (chaps) off country OR western.

So I guess its ok to blast The Planets symphony (I like to make love to my lady with Mars, The Bringer of War cranked to 11) or maybe a little Pirates of Penzance? (both pieces of music favorites of mine along with NWA, Public Enemy, Ice Cube, Dre, Snoop, Nate G, Jam Master J...)

[SVSOLITAIRE]

Originally Posted by sailingabe41ds

When I started sailing 30 years ago ...everybody wanted to help as you were coming into the slip. My problem was how not to sound impolite and letting them know I am okay I do not need help for fear that they would pull the bow line to tight. Now...and even before Covid.... I rarleyt see anyone helping anybody any more. Maybe it is a generational thing....or maybe it is because I am California...I don't know.

Abe

I suppose that could be said about a lot of things these days.

[MicHughV]

THE most annoying thing....expected to bring ice cubes when invited onto another boat for a sundowner...usually the reason why you were invited in the first place...

[sailingabe41ds]

Originally Posted by SVSOLITAIRE

I suppose that could be said about a lot of things these days.

Unfortunately, you are probably so right.

Abe

[Kd9truck]

Originally Posted by smacsdesign

I couldn`t resist putting my two cents in here, so one of my biggest ettiquette screw ups is the guy on port tack who has seen you coming for 20 mins on starboard tack and doesn`t give way while kicked back at the helm with his feet up and a cocktail! And I`m in the same attitude, of course.

Really a very basic rule, I “stand on” (when I am the stand on vessel) until I can see the white of there eyes. It is as we know very dangerous to play chicken, yet it seems a lot of skippers and captains don’t get this right. And in other news there are a lot of terrible drivers on the road getting to the marina as well.