Shy Cruising or don't invite me to the Potluck :)

[BandB]

Originally Posted by Blue Crab

SCM: "... I'm attending a big potluck event at the marina and we're all getting together to cook our cats. That's actually what sweet and sour chicken is. Cat."

Holy Hairballs Batman! Talk about letting the cat out of the bag! Among potluck-inclined yet budget-minded cruisers, Cat is well known as "the other other white meat." It's not just for hippie squatters anymore.

Hell yeah, I'll come to the potluck and thanks for asking! Have a nice morning, afternoon, and night, neighbor.

Wifey B.....hubby scared of my response to this one but here goes.

I think then next time knowing the feline attribute there, I'll just tell them then I don't eat p.....(well, that might be a lie too.......can't say that) cat.....cat's the word. I don't eat cat. Neither I nor my hubby does....cat that is. I shall keep on topic.

But I also don't eat anything I don't know what is or can't identify. No goulash of unknown ingredients.

[JPA Cate]

It seems to me that sort of as predicted many posts above, the Jungian introverts know clearly what makes them comfortable, and it's quite different from what makes the extroverts happy.

My prediction: some of us will be happy to live and let live; others will not!

Ann

[sailcruiser]

This thread has been highly entertaining and enlightening. Our crew consists very shy introvert and a small group only extrovert. I rarely drink and that seems to really confuse some people. I have no desire to push my choices on anyone else and excuse myself if I find a person pushing his/hers on me.

I don't see a problem with either end of the spectrum. I think turmoil brews with perceived rude behavior where perception can vary widely on many factors.
SC

[LBW399]

Originally Posted by markpierce

It helps to have a compatible extrovert aboard when you're shy.

[Wotname]

Originally Posted by Ann T. Cate

It seems to me that sort of as predicted many posts above, the Jungian introverts know clearly what makes them comfortable, and it's quite different from what makes the extroverts happy.

My prediction: some of us will be happy to live and let live; others will not!

Ann

Possibly the most succinct post of the thread

[Prairie Chicken]

I am not sure where I fall in the spectrum of hippie squatter to check book cruiser but I am reminded of what my Granny use to say:

"There is so much good in the worst of us
and so much bad in the best of us
it's hard to tell them from the rest of us."

Your granny was a wise woman.

[Blue Crab]

Originally Posted by BandB

... I think then next time knowing the feline attribute there, I'll just tell them then I don't eat p.....(well, that might be a lie too.......can't say that) cat.....cat's the word. I don't eat cat. Neither I nor my hubby does....cat that is. I shall keep on topic...

I did not see this coming.

Originally Posted by Ann T. Cate

... some of us will be happy to live and let live ... Ann

Oh Ann... Ann, Ann, Ann ... tsk ... tsk ... such a warm and cuddly, reasonable, community organizer-type of sentiment.

That was fine until, oh ~ 1973, when the pre-apocalyptic song, Live and Let Die, was written by living god Sir Paul McCartney for the movie of the same name.

Unperceived by most, this song changed modern thinking, and more importantly, modern doing. We now have rampant road rage,
poor nutrition, and worst: checkbook sailors.

Resistance, as they say, is futile.

[sailorchic34]

Originally Posted by socaldmax

Didn't some dead guy once say, "The lady doth protest too much, methinks."

I've never seen so many people complain about other people trying to do the right thing and invite others to a social event. Christ, if they threw a party and didn't invite you, you'd be calling them snobs and spitting in their direction every time you passed their boat.

Honey, have no fear. I don't judge folks by a somewhat petty example of weather or not I'm invited to a party, pot luck, shindig, or whatever. I will never ever be mad at someone for not inviting me out. Though I might question your parentage, should you persist in asking.

Nor was I complaining, only pointing out that someone is not rude, just for turning down an invitation.

After some preponderance, I would also like to revise my previous statement about invites to potlucks. I do remember being asked a time or two to a pot luck. I declined both invitations. As I do to roughly 99.93 percent of all invitations to anything else.

As the name of this thread says, Please please don't invite me to a potluck or other social event. Unless someone the likes of, oh Carl Sagan or Richard Feyman for example were giving a discussion somewhere. Now THAT would swoon me off my feet..

[BandB]

Originally Posted by sailorchic34

I declined both invitations. As I do to roughly 99.93 percent of all invitations to anything else.

As the name of this thread says, Please please don't invite me to a potluck or other social event. Unless someone the likes of, oh Carl Sagan or Richard Feyman for example were giving a discussion somewhere. Now THAT would swoon me off my feet..

We decline most invitations to large gatherings as do you. We will join another couple for dinner if it's somewhere that we would like to go as well. Celebrity led discussions don't excite us. Now, with our close friends, we'll go with them 95% of the time they suggest we join them. They don't even have to ask. And if it's to an event for a charity they support with lots of hard work personally, then we'll always go with them if we're home. They reciprocate with the causes that are dear to us. We have a group of about 15 persons who know they are always welcome at our home, they're treated as family, not just friends. We tell them if we're going to cook out or if we're going out on the water. If we cook out and swim, it's just whoever wants to come. If we're headed out on the boat for the day, they're told what time we're undocking and if they make it they go with us. We have had one say she was running way late and just met us in Miami when we docked there.

At most marinas if we're there more than one day, there will typically be one couple or at most two families we end up spending time getting to know.

We strongly believe you can get to know more people in a small group than a large one. Making an appearance does nothing for us, but we do enjoy sitting quietly and talking to others we like.

[sailorchic34]

Originally Posted by BandB

Celebrity led discussions don't excite us.

I guess Sagan could be considered a celebrity. Though I mentioned him more for his astrophysicist, cosmologist, background and not his fame. Feyman could play a mean set of bongos, but that probably did not make him much of a Celebrity. Feyman did know a bit about math and physics though. Both had a passion in science.

I'm so not into celebrities, be they actors or politicians, who really are just bad actors anyway.

[JPA Cate]

On the subject of "checkbook sailors", I can certainly understand how someone who has worked hard and long in order to be able to spend his/her funds freely might not want to "haggle" over prices. ....and yet, look at the expectations it sets up for the cruisers who follow and who are not on such a large budget. It will raise prices for them, and that may be a side effect the cb cruiser might want to consider.

I would think that all of us might be better served by bargaining where that is the accepted way of the culture we are visiting, and not, where it is not.

On the other hand, for oldie cruisers, I see nothing wrong with asking, "do you have a discount for seniors?" YMMV

[Horror Hotel]

Checkbook sailors is a terribly term. It rings of bitterness from all who sling it around. Checkbook sailors, credit card sailors, cash sailors, what the F does it matter how the money is kept or spent. No ones business at all.

[valhalla360]

Originally Posted by Ann T. Cate

On the subject of "checkbook sailors", I can certainly understand how someone who has worked hard and long in order to be able to spend his/her funds freely might not want to "haggle" over prices. ....and yet, look at the expectations it sets up for the cruisers who follow and who are not on such a large budget. It will raise prices for them, and that may be a side effect the cb cruiser might want to consider.

Of course, those evil checkbook cruisers are also the reason new marinas and facilities are built.

The free dingy docks are usually built to encourage cruisers to spend money buying things, going out to eat and visiting tourist attractions.

Fuel docks don't make a profit off sail boats that buy 5 gallons of diesel, take on 200 gallons of water and dump their garbage once every 2 weeks. If everyone followed that pattern, the fuel docks would go away in short order.

If someone has worked hard and has more money than me, good for them if they want to buy what they like. I don't expect to find a cheap slip in Monte Carlo and that's OK. The people of Monte Carlo benefit from being a highly desirable location.

[atoll]

Originally Posted by valhalla360

Of course, those evil checkbook cruisers are also the reason new marinas and facilities are built.

The free dingy docks are usually built to encourage cruisers to spend money buying things, going out to eat and visiting tourist attractions.

Fuel docks don't make a profit off sail boats that buy 5 gallons of diesel, take on 200 gallons of water and dump their garbage once every 2 weeks. If everyone followed that pattern, the fuel docks would go away in short order.

If someone has worked hard and has more money than me, good for them if they want to buy what they like. I don't expect to find a cheap slip in Monte Carlo and that's OK. The people of Monte Carlo benefit from being a highly desirable location.

and how do you feel about having to pay to use your own anchor,and pay to park your dinghy so you can get ashore................,

once the developers have filled up all the available space with marinas,and moorings,which seems to be the norm these days in many natural harbours in northen europe,making yachting an elitist sport

[minaret]

Originally Posted by BandB

Wifey B.....hubby scared of my response to this one but here goes.

I think then next time knowing the feline attribute there, I'll just tell them then I don't eat p.....(well, that might be a lie too.......can't say that) cat.....cat's the word. I don't eat cat. Neither I nor my hubby does....cat that is. I shall keep on topic.

But I also don't eat anything I don't know what is or can't identify. No goulash of unknown ingredients.

Risqué!