A digital voltmeter is helpful, but its difficult to determine the state of charge from the voltage alone. It can be done at least approximately by measuring the voltage after the battery has rested and compensating for temperature, but its not easy.
As an alternative
1.
work out how much you use based on the
consumption of your lights and fans and make sure you recharge well before this
consumption reaches 50% of you battery capacity. If your usage is reasonably constant you may be able to say I need to recharge after X number of nights. If you can recharge earlier and this will be better for the batteries.
2. Install a battery
monitor. These are more than a voltmeter. They count the AHrs in and out of the battery.
Models include the Blue seas VSM, link 10, Nasa BM-1, Victoron BMV600.
The Nasa unit is the cheapest.
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