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[SaltyMonkey]

Originally Posted by anjou

Men shouldnt think, they should just obey.

ROFL!! Great one anjou!

[iwsteel]

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[Gadagirl]

"Men, we are hopelessly outclassed when it comes to having thought through what it means to relate, marry, reproduce, etc.,"

Maybe some, certainly not all. I am 1 of 2 females working directly with 10 men. There is no woman I know that could outclass any of them. And then to think of all things created on earth, art, litterature, philosophy, music, architecture...... I'm pretty sure men have/can think through theese things. I witness this every day.*

[Gadagirl]

Originally Posted by anjou

Once youve been round the love/relationship loop a few times, life becomes more like a poker game. You dont put all your money down in one go like when you were 17, from now on, your working on a 'See you, then maybe raise you' strategy. Its damage limitation, just incase it goes tits up again, cos the older you get, the less you want to take the pain of another failure.

I agree, no need to rush in. Take your time.

[captainKJ]

Originally Posted by anjou

You been drinking again Speakeasy?

You know what the Doc said about drink and procrastination, it only leads to thinking, and then the real trouble starts.

Men shouldnt think, they should just obey.

Women are like angels,,, when someone breaks off there wings,
They simply continue to fly on a broomstick,,,,,
they are flexible like that.

[captainKJ]

Originally Posted by anjou
You been drinking again Speakeasy?

You know what the Doc said about drink and procrastination, it only leads to thinking, and then the real trouble starts.

Men shouldnt think, they should just obey.

The problem with obeying is that most women use words that men do not understand the meaning of,,, just see the following,,,,,,,

The Real Definition of Words When Used By Women *

1. Fine - I am right. This argument is over. You need to shut up. *
2. That's Okay - One of the most dangerous statements a women can make to a man. "That's okay" means she wants to think hard and long before deciding when and how you'll pay for your mistake. *
3. Nothing - The calm before the storm. This means "Something" and you better be on your toes. Note: Arguments that start with "Nothing" usually end with "Fine" (See #1).
4. Five Minutes - If getting dressed, this means half an hour. (Don't be mad about this. It's the same definition for you when it's your turn to do some chores around the house.)
5. Thanks - A woman is thanking you. Do not question this or faint. Just say, "You're welcome," and let it go. *
6. Loud Sigh - Not actually a word but rather a non-verbal statement often misunderstood by men. It means she thinks you are an idiot and wonders why she is standing here wasting her time arguing with you about "Nothing." (See #3) *
7. Go Ahead - This is a dare, not permission. (Don't Do It!) *
8. Don't worry about it, I got it - The second most dangerous statement a woman can make. It means that a woman has asked a man several times to do something and is now doing it herself. (This will result in you asking at a later date, "What's wrong?" For the woman's response, see #3.)

[SaltyMonkey]

I think i am in real trouble

[speakeasy]

Originally Posted by anjou

You been drinking again Speakeasy?

You know what the Doc said about drink and procrastination, it only leads to thinking, and then the real trouble starts.

Men shouldnt think, they should just obey.

I can't understand you. Do you have to shout? And close those curtains, would ya love? The light is blinding me.

[speakeasy]

Originally Posted by anjou

Once youve been round the love/relationship loop a few times, life becomes more like a poker game. You dont put all your money down in one go like when you were 17, from now on, your working on a 'See you, then maybe raise you' strategy. Its damage limitation, just incase it goes tits up again, cos the older you get, the less you want to take the pain of another failure.

You are probably right, and in good company. A couple of my old sigs adresses this issue.

Poker is the game closest to the western conception of life, where life and thought are recognized as intimately combined, where free will prevails over philosophies of fate or of chance, where men are considered moral agents and where - at least in the short run - the important thing is not what happens but what people think happens. ~John Luckacs

Whether he likes it or not, a man’s character is stripped at the poker table; if the other players read him better than he does, he has only himself to blame. Unless he is both able and prepared to see himself as others do, flaws and all, he will be a loser in cards, as in life. ~Anthony Holden

[speakeasy]

Originally Posted by Gadagirl

"Men, we are hopelessly outclassed when it comes to having thought through what it means to relate, marry, reproduce, etc.,"

Maybe some, certainly not all. I am 1 of 2 females working directly with 10 men. There is no woman I know that could outclass any of them. And then to think of all things created on earth, art, litterature, philosophy, music, architecture...... I'm pretty sure men have/can think through theese things. I witness this every day.*

Gadagirl, I wasn't being literal but attempting lyrical. In our 20's though, men were clearly way behind on those subjects but with maturity, most manage to catch up and think it through. Often a bit late or after the fact.

As for the cultural product of men through the ages, since women had no rights or overt power, and were considered chattel, they learned to survive in more subtle ways and probably were responsible for half the intellectual production published under their "master's" name.

Lucky you, that you have colleagues to work with that you respect and admire. Most or many don't.

I noted earlier your saying you didn't like shoes. I've never met a woman that didn't positively love shoes.

[speakeasy]

Originally Posted by iwsteel

Great vid! A perfect segue.

[iwsteel]

Originally Posted by speakeasy

Great vid! A perfect segue.

thank you

[iwsteel]

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[Feral Cement]

WOW! I spend a coupla days working on the boat and come back to 3 more pages of BoatMatch.com. I guess my comment, unoriginal as it might be, sorta drew a line on the proverbial sand?

Different people are comfortable with different relationships, but when I see a couple and think "They are meant to be together", I don't see cool, distant connections; I see warm, close connections, commitment, belief, even faith. Now, how can anyone in their right mind stand up and say with a straight face, "OK, I think I've got it this time" against such overwhelming evidence that it will fail? Because we believe in love, that's how. We have to, there is no viable alternative in the long run.

Zeehag wrote: only problem is --if ye dont love like ye never been hurt ye get no where in life--

YEP, that's the deal - in for a penny, in for a pound.

Anjou wrote: Once youve been round the love/relationship loop a few times, life becomes more like a poker game.

OK, let me say it another way.....after you've placed a few bets and lost, the only way to win is bet again - in for a penny.....

Speakeasy wrote: all of us who still have the temerity to dream of a perfect union...........The strategy of how to deal with.........Playing the strengths and weakness of girls, of boys, of men and of women to get what you want............the catachism that teaches the dance steps to both sexes is now lost.

For a minute there I thought if you were one of the hopeful romantics. It isn't a negotiation, a strategy, a deal. It's a profound, cosmic, undeniable synergy, the ultimate power in and of the universe, that is as close to being a god as I will ever be.

The answers, all of them, are inside you. Simple. You have to look inside to see yourself and be honest about what you see. Hard.

Ocean Girl -- Marry me.

John

[flysci]

Originally Posted by Feral Cement

OK, we have the confession in writing! After a short trial, she'll be doin' time on the "Uses Companions" rap.

(Margo - I trust you know I'm kidding.)

Have you ever been in a relationship where they each do what they're good at so that together they can be the best possible couple? Synergy is a beautiful thing.

I am constantly amazed by the number of women who say they are looking for a committed relationship, then in the same breath talk about the limits they will put on their emotional investment. When I ask, "How's that workin' for ya?", the answer is always the same - "still looking."

Love like you've never been hurt.

John

Hi John,

I'm not sure where this response came from - some kinda misunderstanding. I was trying to say. that women who are good to go on their own, are free to look for a "real" relationship. That os not based on the need to be supported or taken care of, but on intimacy, a true meeting of minds and bodies.

Margo