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Old 29-06-2010, 21:29   #421
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SO how do people meet like-minded potential mates? I've never been a "player" and try to be honest and straightforward, but it's always the smooth talking playa who actually gets a girl to talk to him.. I've tried flowers, etc, but there must be an invisible L on my forehead? Great reading here guys!
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I think the most important ingredient in a relationship (or perhaps developing one) is proximity.
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I think the most important ingredient in a relationship (or perhaps developing one) is proximity.
I think you have hit on the one major difference that we single sailors have with our dirt bound competitors in finding and keeping the right partner.

By definition, we are transients who are also probably a bit more introverted than most because of those long night watches…. alone with our thoughts.

I have been a single professional sailor all my life, who could not find the right partner to work with me and could nor bear to commit to a long distance relationship as a distant husband and father. So that never happened and I simply got used to that empty feeling, while enjoying a great career.

But in truth we all need “Love” and that inadequate word is so hard to define that thousands of essays have been written about the many different kinds of "Love" using Greek terminology.

So eventually …I quit my job to become a recreational sailor and focused on finding a partner who was like me…. simply looking for just three things in a relationship:

Intimacy + Passion + Commitment.

Now still enjoying a 5 year relationship that has maintained those attributes, we do not sweat the small stuff and from my now older and perhaps wiser perspective, it was well worth the wait.

My humble advice is to keep it simple and enjoy your life while still in the search
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Thats so sweet and true Pelagic.
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I think you have hit on the one major difference that we single sailors have with our dirt bound competitors in finding and keeping the right partner.

By definition, we are transients who are also probably a bit more introverted than most because of those long night watches…. alone with our thoughts.

I have been a single professional sailor all my life, who could not find the right partner to work with me and could nor bear to commit to a long distance relationship as a distant husband and father. So that never happened and I simply got used to that empty feeling, while enjoying a great career.

But in truth we all need “Love” and that inadequate word is so hard to define that thousands of essays have been written about the many different kinds of "Love" using Greek terminology.

So eventually …I quit my job to become a recreational sailor and focused on finding a partner who was like me…. simply looking for just three things in a relationship:

Intimacy + Passion + Commitment.

Now still enjoying a 5 year relationship that has maintained those attributes, we do not sweat the small stuff and from my now older and perhaps wiser perspective, it was well worth the wait.

My humble advice is to keep it simple and enjoy your life while still in the search
Bingo Pelagic! Wonderful post, thanks for writing it.

We have 125 members now, welcome to all the new members.

Gadagirl -you sound like such a neat person, hope we run into each other out there (hopefully we are not single handing!).

Life here on OG is great, I am not online much (sorry) very busy and work is.. well work! Glad to see everyone is doing well. Anjou you bronze beauty! are you in the tropics? you are so tan.

Off to work, no hammock time on the bow of OG today, we are feeling the out stretched fingers of hurricane alex so rain and more rain.

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After the hardest winter for 20 years, out cometh the sun. Only 5 months ago we had flooding and now we are facing a hosepipe ban.

I burn and turn tanned in a few short days so I can change colour quite easilly. Ive got freckles too and when ive finished joining them up, (about when im 70) I will be Black and apply for a different passport to a country which I hope hasnt gone to the dogs.

Meanwhile, Sydney is having a realy cold snap. Whats happening to the world?

Im roasty toasty inside cos I may have a new love. - I said MAY.
Haha, they finally started building my boat last friday so im off to update the blog with new piccies.
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My humble advice is to keep it simple and enjoy your life while still in the search
I nearly vomited over all that mushy ooze.

But the last line is a goodie

Being happy and enjoying life is the most important thing in the world. Women who see this in you are immediately attracted. Why? Because they are like rabid ware-wolves circling for prey and they love chewing happiness and spitting you into the gutter stripped of cash and dignity.

Did some wise sage once say 'beware what you wish for' or did I just make that up?

OK, I better get outta this thread



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DOnt be such an old cynic Mark

Not all women are gold digging, money sucking leeches. Some of us want what money cannot buy and wheres the pride in destroying someone whos never done any harm?

I thought Nicole would have knocked some bloody sense into you by now. Maybe your getting too comfortable and need a reality check.

DOnt be bitter please, its not attractive. I fancied you but can go off you pretty fast ya know.
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need a reality check.

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Is that like a bank check?

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..............they are like rabid ware-wolves circling for prey and they love chewing happiness and spitting you into the gutter stripped of cash and dignity.


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I haven't been reading this thread .............. but if I'm going to miss out on great lines like this I'm going to start getting caught up
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Don't mind mark. It's easy to become insensitive being on a cold, pragmatic bennie and stuck in an oppressive Turkey for months and months on end.

Kudos to Pelagic.
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No

Its like, dont take loved ones for granted or life for that matter. xxx
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Its like, dont take loved ones for granted or life for that matter. xxx
And great exclam-point by anjou
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Paligic said: "My humble advice is to keep it simple and enjoy your life while still in the search."

Agreed. It is said that happiness (love too?) is like a butterfly. The more you chase it, the more it will elude you. However, when you turn your attention to other things, it will come and light softly upon your shoulder.
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