A general social question regarding sailing

[Jim Cate]

Actually, since our surname is Cate, which has become a common spelling of a woman's first name, confusion often reigns around these issues. But being known as "the Insatiables" has served well for decades.

Jim

[Wotname]

Maybe sailors are more traditional than others?????

At some stage in history John the smithy became John Smith.

[Hoodsail]

Originally Posted by OloteleMtn

Only if the authorities are looking for you, otherwise stand tall.

Love it!!! Sound advice there....

[gonesail]

boat business cards are awesome. they really help me to remember names and especially email addresses

[ontherocks83]

I will say that in my very short time being new to the ocean (as opposed to 25 years on a lake) most everyone is very friendly and helpful. Maybe this is transference but my perception of some of the hostility/bravado on different forums is not what the real boating world is like.

Internet heroes can tend to be condemning and know it all's where as at the marina everyone I've met has been inviting and helpful. My new slip can be a pain to get in and out of in a stiff cross breeze and I was struggling at first. Some neighbors very politely offered some advice and now it is much easier. It seems most people want to be neighborly and if they are asking for your info it is because they are trying to remember you or are taking interest in getting to know you.

In my land life I am typically more closed off and less inviting, in my boating life (where we share a common interest) I am much more open and happy to meet new people that I can learn from and become friends with.

[patrick brooks]

I always pick up last name with first hand shake?guess that's less likely for a while, The marina I live we refer to each other as captain, like the rum commercial, I save face as it is hard to remember names fair winds captains

[StuM]

Originally Posted by patrick brooks

The marina I live we refer to each other as captain, like the rum commercial, I save face as it is hard to remember names fair winds captains

One trick to "save face" when you've completely forgotten someone's name:


Me: I'm sorry, I'm terrible with names, I've forgottern yours.
You : Patrick
Me: Yes, I know that. I meant your surname.


(An RC padre I knew in the army solved it quite simply. He called everyone either "Georgie" or Suzie"

[Uncle Bob]

Originally Posted by StuM

One trick to "save face" when you've completely forgotten someone's name:


Me: I'm sorry, I'm terrible with names, I've forgottern yours.
You : Patrick
Me: Yes, I know that. I meant your surname.


(An RC padre I knew in the army solved it quite simply. He called everyone either "Georgie" or Suzie"

Mate or darls works well also

[oceanshoretiga]

Get an email address as that will often, not always, get you a surname. Yes, an enter your contacts into your phone or tablet as fully as you can. I even sometimes but the name of the previous boat when someone changes and I don’t yet know them well. Gotta prompt that memory!

[Pete7]

Originally Posted by AKA-None

Wait people have names?

Really? my wife just gets called "Mum"

[GarthGregory]

In a similar vein - my sailing over the last 40 odd years ! ( briefly I thought it was 20 years ) has been all in the Med . One of the best part of sailing are the people one meets and the friends one makes , even if it is only fleetingly . We have also had a number of sailing friends stay with us in S A on their travels . In over thousands of docking in villages , I can only remember 3 or 4 occasions when no one helped take my lines .I can't think of a single occasion ,when fellow sailors did not try to help fix a problem - prop fallen off to crossed anchor chains etc . - One gets to meet people from all over the world but language is never a problem , we are all sailors - long may it continue , it has been a really wonderful part of sailing , that I did not foresee - Fair Winds

[AKA-None]

Originally Posted by Jim Cate

Actually, since our surname is Cate, which has become a common spelling of a woman's first name, confusion often reigns around these issues. But being known as "the Insatiables" has served well for decades.

Jim

Well at least it’s not Karen :-)

[GoneDiving]

I think this varies across cultures too. It's very typical for Asians to have a very wide circle of family and friends with every second person seemingly "my best friend". Pehaps because of this my Indonesian wife has a steel trap memory for names and peoples' smaller details (birthdays, anniversaries, kids school details etc). I, on the other hand, have a smaller circle of friends and am totally hopeless at remembering even first names. Luckily, as an Australian, everyone is 'mate'. 😀

[visionsinsight]

Nice! I'd like to do deliveries too. Know anyone in the US who could use another crew?

[visionsinsight]

That's the life I want!