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05-02-2017, 20:53
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#16
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Registered User
Join Date: Aug 2013
Location: Oakland, CA
Boat: Freedom 38
Posts: 2,503
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Re: Female crew for sailing trip June 2017
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Originally Posted by Jim Cate
That's funny... I've been around this forum for quite a while, and I did not know that.
It is the necessary duty for any pickup crew to vet the skipper, any additional crew and the vessel before signing on. Doesn't matter if male, female or indeterminate, your life may depend upon this process.
The OP was not skillfully crafted, and should have included much more info, but to imagine evil intent from that is way over t he top IMO. Skip may or may not find his crew here, but hopefully that person will do the right thing and perform their own investigation. Skip, of course should equally vet the ap
Skip, welcome to CF, good luck with the cruise and don't let those accusatory posts turn you away.
JIm
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Here, here, Jim. You and Ann are always the voices of reason (at least of the posts I've read)
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05-02-2017, 21:32
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Registered User
Join Date: Nov 2008
Location: Miami
Boat: Boatless
Posts: 1,578
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Re: Female crew for sailing trip June 2017
I was looking for female crew and 15 years later we are married and have sailed 40,000nm together.
A wonderful, wonderful partnership...and of course a relationship based on mutual respect, sailing skills and...sex in 30 different countries.
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Phil
"Remember, experience only means that you screw-up less often."
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05-02-2017, 21:38
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#18
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Registered User
Join Date: Aug 2010
Location: Central California
Boat: M/V Carquinez Coot
Posts: 3,782
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Re: Female crew for sailing trip June 2017
My crew:
Relationship established eight years before boating.
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05-02-2017, 22:40
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#19
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Moderator
Join Date: May 2008
Location: cruising SW Pacific
Boat: Jon Sayer 1-off 46 ft fract rig sloop strip plank in W Red Cedar
Posts: 21,222
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Re: Female crew for sailing trip June 2017
Hee, hee....
I didn't post an ad or such, I kinda reluctantly agreed to crew on a friends boat in a silly "race" to a popular watering spot. I found Ann there as a fellow crew member. Quickly pinched her away from him and here we are, nearly 40 years later, still together. It's good, for some days she lets me steer if I'm not busy fixing the head.
Seriously, the chances of finding a life partner via a post on CF are pretty slim, but that's not to say that good opportunities don't come up here. If one does the proper vetting after introduction, the chances for disaster are not so dismal, and happy voyaging is frequently reported from such "hookups", even if permanence is not there.
So, lets hope that Skip finds suitable crew and that they have a great cruise. What happens next will be revealed later, and is beyond the purview of this thread IMO.
Jim
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06-02-2017, 03:34
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#20
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Registered User
Join Date: Feb 2017
Location: Germany
Boat: 2008 38 Bavaria Cruiser
Posts: 4
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Re: Female crew for sailing trip June 2017
A big thank you to the nice and welcoming people here.
And...to all the accusing - worried and protective super hero's of the female race...I can declare and promise that I'm not Jack the Ripper or Charles Manson!
All I'd like is some nice helping company on board and only because my family and close friends can't join me this time.
Never in my long life I had such strange reactions to an ad in any other sailing forum?
Too much free time for some people? Don't you have a new President to worry about?
Sorry but this is my last respond here. I have a boat to maintain !
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06-02-2017, 13:41
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#21
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Registered User
Join Date: Sep 2016
Posts: 106
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Re: Female crew for sailing trip June 2017
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Originally Posted by Jim Cate
Hee, hee....
I didn't post an ad or such, I kinda reluctantly agreed to crew on a friends boat in a silly "race" to a popular watering spot. I found Ann there as a fellow crew member. Quickly pinched her away from him and here we are, nearly 40 years later, still together...
Jim
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Great story!
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10-02-2017, 18:03
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#22
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Registered User
Join Date: Dec 2016
Posts: 41
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Re: Female crew for sailing trip June 2017
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Originally Posted by HalfHitch
When it comes advertising for crew more info is preferable to less. This is true for all but especially when gender preference is mentioned. What type of boat is it? What are the accommodations? What would the crew duties be? What type of boating experience is required? Would the crew be asked to participate financially? What is the skipper's boating resume? Would the female crew be the only crew? These are a few details that the original post could have included to avoid speculation.
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These are certainly aspects to be up front about. And maybe any hobbies like gardening, perhaps mowing the lawn, so you know how you are going to get on together.
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10-02-2017, 21:59
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#23
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CF Adviser
Join Date: Oct 2007
Boat: Van Helleman Schooner 65ft StarGazer
Posts: 10,280
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Re: Female crew for sailing trip June 2017
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Originally Posted by SkipSolar
Thank you for your comment pickpaul.
I'm a 63 years young Gentleman.
The "why" I'll explain to the ladies that will hopefully contact me about the offered trip.
Hope my ad is O.K for you now...
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Quote:
Originally Posted by sailorcherry
Ewwww gross! Really? The guy has two posts - I wonder why?!
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Probably because of the morality police like you.
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Originally Posted by 1000 islands
Being a male in my mid sixties I feel a need to respond to this post, to explain the most important thing I'd be looking for in crew is 2 things; Firstly the ability to handle the boat and allow me to feel comfortable during my afternoon naps knowing that my boat is in good capable hands.
Secondly, when it comes to gender I personally find it easier to have conversations with the members of the opposite sex. The talk and subject matter is usually lighter with no staring down, primarily because the testosterone levels are a little lower and the need to show me how much better they would be sailing in a heavy wind than I would.
And of course the accepted female role in most relation ships.................
Ah, you slipped that last one in there.....
12 years later, my partner tests my testosterone levels on a regular basis and is lovingly guiding me into my second infancy...[emoji1]
So Ewwwww that!
A better cook
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10-02-2017, 22:40
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#24
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Registered User
Join Date: Jun 2016
Boat: Wauquiez Pretorien 35
Posts: 439
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Re: Female crew for sailing trip June 2017
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Originally Posted by sailorcherry
Ewwww gross! Really? The guy has two posts - I wonder why?!
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Uhhh...., maybe because he just joined the forum this month???!!. Cheez, hate to have you on a jury. Guilty without proof. I, on the other hand, prefer to look at the glass half full, and give everyone a chance .
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10-02-2017, 22:48
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#25
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Registered User
Join Date: Jun 2016
Boat: Wauquiez Pretorien 35
Posts: 439
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Re: Female crew for sailing trip June 2017
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Originally Posted by SkipSolar
A big thank you to the nice and welcoming people here.
And...to all the accusing - worried and protective super hero's of the female race...I can declare and promise that I'm not Jack the Ripper or Charles Manson!
All I'd like is some nice helping company on board and only because my family and close friends can't join me this time.
Never in my long life I had such strange reactions to an ad in any other sailing forum?
Too much free time for some people? Don't you have a new President to worry about?
Sorry but this is my last respond here. I have a boat to maintain !
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Skip- Don't worry about it. Some people live in a paranoid bubble. Welcome. Hope you find a good female crew. BTW, I'm a 62 year old male who's sailed 40+ years with both male and female crews and there's something good to be said about both, but I've always got along better with women more than men. Ewwwww gross....
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24-05-2017, 05:39
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#26
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Registered User
Join Date: Oct 2012
Location: Tipperary & Dublin Ireland
Boat: Beneteau 44cc
Posts: 90
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Re: Female crew for sailing trip June 2017
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Originally Posted by Sandero
Too many of these ads requesting female crew have a creepy feel to them.
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I am looking for a nice woman to join me on my circumnav as well so whats wrong with that? and Im up for a new relationship but that doesent mean im creppy. I have had lots of women crew of all ages and Iv been offshore alone with many for days sometimes. That doesent make me creppy either. They are all still great friends of mine with whom I have regular contact. Like most healthy Males I happen to like Female company. Thank god for that. If I stopped liking women tomorrow now that would be creepy.
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13-07-2017, 18:10
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#27
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Registered User
Join Date: Jun 2017
Location: Whitsundays
Boat: Perry Passage maker 43ft
Posts: 6
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Re: Female crew for sailing trip June 2017
Wow reading some of the replies certainly brings a smile
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