Wife is Close to Axing Cruising Dreams

[Igotnuthin]

OMG! Find a woman who has a large boat AND WORKS on it herself then you know she's invested in the dream! PERIOD!
WHAT is WRONG with you guys?!!!

[dpddj]

I used to work with a guy who had a classic T-top corvette, few miles, impeccable shape. He also had a nice sailboat, make evades me. Then he married the woman of his dreams. A couple years into it she told him to sell the vette (I strongly suggested he sell her) and he did sell the car. Sometime later she told him to sell the boat - he did. A year or so later she divorced him and took half the money and the house.

[weavis]

Originally Posted by Igotnuthin

OMG! Find a woman who has a large boat AND WORKS on it herself then you know she's invested in the dream! PERIOD!
WHAT is WRONG with you guys?!!!

LOL
Usually the 'dream' dont hit guys until well married, kids, mortgage and bills.

[Igotnuthin]

Originally Posted by weavis

LOL
Usually the 'dream' dont hit guys until well married, kids, mortgage and bills.

I know! I am SURROUNDED by them!

[SaltyMonkey]

Originally Posted by weavis

LOL
Usually the 'dream' dont hit guys until well married, kids, mortgage and bills.

Yes, a disease called "masculus effugium"

[thomm225]

Maybe it would be best for the wife to just hang out at home and the OP just get a First Mate:

My First Mate Suzie Pt. 1 - Sailing South Pacific/ Hawaii - Voyage of Emerald Steel - YouTube

[marlinmike]

A lot of good advise given, do think you need to understand what she likes and doesn't and fine tune the plan to make it work, I agree with the fly in to start, the hop around when she is onboard down south, if not everything you dreamed of or her's you can then sell the boat/down size, but I would give it a short trial.

[weavis]

Originally Posted by Igotnuthin

I know! I am SURROUNDED by them!

Well that it then. CAnt help the OP and as he is willing to give it all up for the wife.... there may be a cheap boat on the market soon... I hope not but...............

[dpddj]

thomm225 - that posting is just cruel and mean!

[Red Sky]

Originally Posted by Celestialsailor

Absolutely right! Yards (especially in So. Ca.) wait for unsuspecting newer boat owners and sock it to em. So.Ca. is the worst. You should have taken the boat to Ensenada for the work and tasted a little bit of Mx. Baja Naval labor is $25@hr. What you described would have been 2 days labor ($400) and 2 gallons of paint ($500). Round trip would have been $150 and by what you describe as shaft issues, I'm assuming a little work on the strut and cutlass ($250). So around $1300.

+1

CABO!!! That place is a cesspool of scam artists and drug dealers. Go to La Paz or P.V.

++1, Show her what the goal is, fly down to P. V. and hang in La Cruz for a long weekend. PM me if you want a recommendation of a great place to stay that's on the beach and a 2 minute walk to the marina.

[TeddyDiver]

Oiling the boom... Mmmmmm

[IdoraKeeper]

SoCal presents certain built in issues. Beautiful weather but not really any good destinations. You are fascinated with the boat, she thinks going out for the day and tacking around is BORING! Then not only do you ask her to go on a very long (OMG) excruciating ultra boring voyage, you have the gall to spend thousands of dollars in service of this abuse. You lack a viable context, she is not engaged.

You may find a serious hidden motive in all this. You may be interfering with part of her life that is considered none of your business. The difficult part is that you are not aware (by design). You could try having her fly in but it would be wise to be sure of what is really going on. You might come home and find the locks changed.

These things suck but they are real. It keeps lawyers in business. The answer lies in what you don't know.

[weavis]

Im amused at some of the suggestions. They just spent thousands more than they thought and the (public) worry on Mrs part is the spending of money. Then some of you suggest spending thousands more to get her interested by jetting all over the place.

[Red Sky]

Originally Posted by weavis

Im amused at some of the suggestions. They just spent thousands more than they thought and the (public) worry on Mrs part is the spending of money. Then some of you suggest spending thousands more to get her interested by jetting all over the place.

LAX to P.V., Round trip - $450/each, beach casa - $100/night, street tacos - $1. Seems like a cheap price to save both the dream and a marriage.

[thomm225]

Originally Posted by dpddj

thomm225 - that posting is just cruel and mean!

Quit crying, that first mate is awesome!