I don't know who is talking to whom or to themselves. Just when discussions like this come up, I realize even more not just how lucky my wife and I are but that we seem to be the exception. Seems like on top of divorce, there sure are a lot of either bad or not so good marriages. I don't know the cause of all of it, but I do think I know one very significant cause. That is the lack of time, especially quality family
time. People talk about long distant relationships being difficult but so are absentee or largely absentee relationships and even those where you have time together but you're so exhausted from other responsibilities that you can't really enjoy and experience it together. My wife and I would do anything for each other and nothing else in the world comes close in our priorities.
I guess all I'd say to those speaking harshly and negatively toward their relationships is that if you do love each other try to find a way to remove the barriers to your joint happiness, whether it's job or boat or other interests or whatever. For those not in good relationships I wish some of you luck in removing yourself from a bad one or finding a good one. But to some of you so sour on relationships, then I hope you retain the wisdom to continue to realize it's not for you and enjoy single
life. There's nothing wrong with that choice. While I can't or don't want to imagine life without my marriage, I've had good friends who were great people and lousy marital candidates. A couple of them took several marriages to figure it out. One took three marriages to the same woman. One great friend fell in love again after three marriages but fortunately the lady of his affections knew him well and when he proposed she said "H.ll no. I may date you forever, spends nights off and on with you, go places with you, but you're lousy in marriages so I'm not letting you make that mistake again. He told me and I said, "I'm glad one of you has good sense and it's sure not you."
And we do understand. Both sets of our parents had lousy marriages.