Don't listen to anyone's conclusions about your relationship, because no one here can know what it's really like. Only you can know whether she's a keeper or not, whether she's reasonably expressing reasonable suggestions or whether she is pushing and manipulating you. Only you know how far she has gone already buying
into your dreams and making them into common dreams and thus what is reasonable for you to do to meet her halfway, or how far she hasn't gone.
If she's listening to you and your ideas about boats and has moved on from cats and mobos, that might be a good sign. It's been said in the other thread that it's a very common and probably normal desire among women
to want to move into a house which is not
the house where her new man lived another life before her, and maybe with other women
, but rather into a house which the couple chose together. If that's part of what's going on here, there's probably nothing wrong with that.
The Alden 44 is an absolutely gorgeous boat -- one of the prettiest things afloat, I think. I had a boat from the same yard. But I think this would be a fairly -- um, challenging boat as a comfortable liveaboard
for a couple. There's no real master cabin
so there's really just one living space below. Living aboard
as a couple is really a different challenge to sailing solo -- a boat which is good for one might really not be suitable for the other.
If I were you, I would look at center cockpit
boats with aft master cabins -- something like a Hylas
47, maybe? Also sold
as a Stevens 47, this is a beautiful Sparkman & Stevens design with a very spacious, comfortable interior
, with a nice aft master cabin
. With a center cockpit
boat, you also get an after deck
which is an ideal place for sunbathing
And not just sunbathing -- the after deck
gives you real outdoor space; means you're not confined to the cockpit
which makes a huge difference.
This is a very heavy (16 tons), sturdy boat with a long fin keel
, so is not going to be all that fast. But most of them were cutter
rigged and so this will be a great package for long-distance cruising -- safe and comfortable in any kind of weather