In the VI's, how lucky do I have to be to get lucky?

[ty.gregory]

I'm a 55 year old, reasonably attractive white male in pretty good shape. I know the picture of me is dim, you're just going to have to take my word on this.

I plan to singlehand sail through the Bahamas and VI's for two or three years, then cross an ocean or two. I'll probably be on a Gemini catamaran. I expect to have a budget of about a thousand US dollars a month to spend.

Here's the question:[They say there are no stupid ones] in regard to social life, what's it going to be like? When I want to be alone, I know I can figure out how. When I want to find some romance/social life, what can I expect? Oh, one more thing about me-- I bathe fairly often and wear clean-ish clothes whenever possible and fully plan to brush my teeth before rowing ashore. So, what are my chances on getting lucky out there?????

[John A]

Many ladies of third world countries view a meaningful relationship with a singlehanding American as a way to leave their country. So it depends on which desparate person would consider themselves lucky.

The flip side is that if you have trouble establishing a relationship in your home environment while not living on a boat, buying a boat willnot improve your chances for a relationship.

[ty.gregory]

John A, relax there big guy. Take a deep breath. I was just asking about the possibiltiy of meeting women in the VI's around my age. I'm not sure you're the right person to ask, but thank you for your patience. Have a nice day.

[boatman61]

A coupla friends of mine have no trouble... they have the gift of the 'Chat'
Me.... I get comments like...
"Whats a girl have to do... wear a green flashing light..?"
I'm a bit slow in that department.... so maybe I'm not the one to ask either.....

[osirissail]

John A has summed it up succinctly. There is no shortage of drop dead gorgeous young things available in 3rd World countries/islands. But unless you want to get into all kinds of complicated hassles you need a strategy for "dis-engaging" with the current one before the complications arise. Birth control is now your responsibility or you will leave a trail of young-un's around the world.
- - As to the Virgin Islands specifically, there are opportunities for great friendships and fun times together - it can be a party-type place. But depending upon your Karma and personality and financial resources you are basically going to have the same luck you had back inside the mainland USA. There is an ample supply of pretty young studs for ladies to pick for "exercise."
- - IMHO, your options are pretty much limited to 3rd World countries where a young lady is looking for someone to feed and take care of them financially (which does not involve that much money) and she will take care of you in return.
- - I have many single-handing men friends that I have met over the last decade in the Caribbean and each was able to keep himself well-supplied. But they keep the boat ready to sail at a moment's notice in case the situation gets out of hand or too sticky.
- - But some find some really great women and knowing the complications of trying to get them into and out of various countries, opt to just settle down in the local area and build a great life with their local honey(s).
- - If you are looking for a "sailing partner" kind of woman it is a lot more work and trouble but can be done. But in most cases you must resign yourself to not returning to the USA again unless you leave her behind. I did it and I am friends with a dozen other former single-handers that have done it successfully. But it was and is a lot of work and takes a lot of time.

[Reality Check]

The ratio of available women to men is probably about 10 to one in the bad direction. This is not a place unattached women congergate... we have far more 40 to 60 year old men... going on 19 emotionally. BVI is Not a Free Wheeling place except at a few tourist bars where you will find men out number women by far and these women are almost always attached.

It is not impossible but is probably one of the most difficult places to accomplish it than you have ever been...... errr assuming you have not been in Prison where it may me more difficult. Don't get your hopes up

[endoftheroad]

I have one that you can take with you.
She is from Australia so just tell her thats where you are going.

I wont say anything.

Need some money?

[ty.gregory]

Okay, thank you all. I may have done a bad job of wording my question. As a matter of fact, I KNOW I did. Sorry about that. What I truely meant to ask is about meeting women on vacation or in bars, you know, like people do in almost every world you can name--which includes the fourth. I don't want to buy anyone. And before you all say it, No, I don't want to rent anyone either. I really, truely was just asking about meeting single women that would go for a 55 year old pauncy stud-muffin similar to myself.

[boatman61]

Sorry mate... I think what I was subtley saying... if you read carefully..
Of course you'll get laid.... if your any good...
and even if your not...
I read somewhere that the average person is attactive to 1 in 20 of the opposite sex.... after one opens their mouths... the odds can change...

[ty.gregory]

Gotcha, Boatman61. Thanks.

[ty.gregory]

I don't stand a chance...

[boatman61]

Welcome to my world....

[virginia boy]

Shoot, you won't even have to leave the country before girls will be begging to come aboard. Boats are babe magnets.

Before I tell you this next bit, let me say that I'm 100% faithful to my wife.

Go to Ft Myers beach in Florida. It's one big party town and the girls will approach you regularly down there. Especially when they find out that you live on a boat.

[atoll]

best to do them 2 or 3 at a time,then they realise there is no future in the relationship,and dont get possesive.........but virgina boy is half right, boats are magnets,the other half of the equation is if you are going somewhere,plenty of girlies just wanna nice comfy ride......just be careful what you wish for......lotsa piranahs out there......who see a 55 emotionally compromised sort of guy looking for love as easy meat.............

[Blue Stocking]

Somebody once said to me "Statistically, 1 out of 4 men are ugly, so if your 3 best mates are good-looking, you know whas happnin' baby".