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Forum: Flotsam & Sailing Miscellany 13-06-2023, 03:01
Replies: 77
Views: 9,104
Posted By Chotu
Re: Apparently I am losing my people skills.

Or the the armchair psychology experts of the Cruisers Forum's definition of BPD:

"Trusting someone in a business arrangement and asking questions when that trust is broken or they do a bad job."...
Forum: Flotsam & Sailing Miscellany 02-06-2023, 16:20
Replies: 77
Views: 9,104
Posted By Chotu
Re: Apparently I am losing my people skills.

Bros: I was venting OK? Wow. I was complaining about the state of service these days. And I guarantee you 90% of the people on this forum feel the same way about it. Everyone sucks that you try to...
Forum: Flotsam & Sailing Miscellany 02-06-2023, 09:24
Replies: 77
Views: 9,104
Posted By Chotu
Re: Apparently I am losing my people skills.

Absolutely. And I have already done this. In this case, not talking about all of the other crap that’s frustrating me as you can see, I have already apologized and told him that I was wrapped up in...
Forum: Flotsam & Sailing Miscellany 02-06-2023, 09:19
Replies: 77
Views: 9,104
Posted By Chotu
Re: Apparently I am losing my people skills.

Also, it might be noted that I run businesses. I have large groups of people I work with continuously. I manage the managers. I manage employees. And I don’t do it with an iron fist. I do it through...
Forum: Flotsam & Sailing Miscellany 02-06-2023, 09:08
Replies: 77
Views: 9,104
Posted By Chotu
Re: Apparently I am losing my people skills.

This.

I don’t know where to find people. I don’t know where to pick people. And I think a lot of people on the forum don’t really understand what it’s like to be a cruiser or a traveler. Many...
Forum: Flotsam & Sailing Miscellany 02-06-2023, 08:58
Replies: 77
Views: 9,104
Posted By Chotu
Re: Apparently I am losing my people skills.

I didn’t lash out at him. That’s the thing. Not at all. He got mad at what to me seemed like out of nowhere to me. I don’t think you read the thread correctly. I didn’t do any lashing at all. None.
...
Forum: Flotsam & Sailing Miscellany 02-06-2023, 07:35
Replies: 77
Views: 9,104
Posted By Chotu
Re: Apparently I am losing my people skills.

See, this is how I learn business. These are my expectations.

But in general I think I can let him know in a more gentle way.

Basically I just need to know I’m not running into a financial wall...
Forum: Flotsam & Sailing Miscellany 02-06-2023, 07:34
Replies: 77
Views: 9,104
Posted By Chotu
Re: Apparently I am losing my people skills.

I get your pattern. I was asking Sailor boy about the pattern.

But if I had it my way, I would not have anyone working on the boat and I never will again. This is the last bit.

Just like auto...
Forum: Flotsam & Sailing Miscellany 02-06-2023, 07:33
Replies: 77
Views: 9,104
Posted By Chotu
Re: Apparently I am losing my people skills.

Sounds about right. Sounds pretty accurate. That’s what I would call a misunderstanding. And especially given that I have been the trades person. Just with a different type of trade but the same...
Forum: Flotsam & Sailing Miscellany 02-06-2023, 07:29
Replies: 77
Views: 9,104
Posted By Chotu
Re: Apparently I am losing my people skills.

You kind of are. But what’s the pattern you notice?
Forum: Flotsam & Sailing Miscellany 02-06-2023, 01:41
Replies: 77
Views: 9,104
Posted By Chotu
Re: Apparently I am losing my people skills.

This is a very good post as well.

I think there had to also be some misunderstanding of intent.

There were actually two main reasons I was looking for some accounting.

1) so I know where I...
Forum: Flotsam & Sailing Miscellany 02-06-2023, 01:31
Replies: 77
Views: 9,104
Posted By Chotu
Re: Apparently I am losing my people skills.

thank you very much for all the advice.

this stuff is so scary.

I won’t be able to keep the boat if he’s not on the level.

But luckily, misappropriation of funds is a felony so I’m sure he’s...
Forum: Flotsam & Sailing Miscellany 01-06-2023, 20:10
Replies: 77
Views: 9,104
Posted By Chotu
Re: Apparently I am losing my people skills.

His time has been a completely separate item. It’s not connected to that parts money. He has been taking a retainer of $2000 at a time for his time. Then, when we work that down to zero, I have to...
Forum: Flotsam & Sailing Miscellany 01-06-2023, 20:09
Replies: 77
Views: 9,104
Posted By Chotu
Re: Apparently I am losing my people skills.

well, there were ground rules. There was a giant spreadsheet with every little piece that I needed for my rigging.

that was where the $15,000 figure came from.

it bumped to 21,000+ because...
Forum: Flotsam & Sailing Miscellany 01-06-2023, 19:37
Replies: 77
Views: 9,104
Posted By Chotu
Re: Apparently I am losing my people skills.

No. I don’t know anything about that. I have all the records of all the communication. They were all written in email. So everything is accounted for in that department. However, there is no real...
Forum: Flotsam & Sailing Miscellany 01-06-2023, 19:33
Replies: 77
Views: 9,104
Posted By Chotu
Re: Apparently I am losing my people skills.

Yeah. I feel like maybe this was it. Like you are saying. Like he felt like I was insulting him in some way.

Maybe that I was insinuating he stole the money or something? And that’s like a...
Forum: Flotsam & Sailing Miscellany 01-06-2023, 18:57
Replies: 77
Views: 9,104
Posted By Chotu
Apparently I am losing my people skills.

OK. Yes I know. There will be some jokes. I don’t have any to begin with. Right? Lol

but today I pissed off my Rigger. And I’m not exactly sure how it happened.

I was in the middle of very...
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