I'm tackling your post another angle: you love your man. you have a family. the dream is for the family to enjoy sailing together.
The thing about boats:
they can either bond a couple to eternity-and-back or smash that couple into smithereens.
Why? because, while good times on a boat are exponentially more wonderful than good times on land, bad times on a boat are exponentially worse than they are on land.
The trick to forging an eternity-and-back bond lies in truly sharing/embracing in this exponential enjoyment together, when it comes and dealing with the bad times when they come, as a team. From the get-go out there, you need to focus on forging good teamwork patterns based on mutual respect and creating a kindness dynamic in which you accomplish together and grow together.
yes, maintaining your marriage is more tricky on a boat than on land
So while he's fixing that boat, you've got a few things you need to do on your own (kids to babysitter):
You need take sailing lessons
with a female sailing teacher, WITHOUT your hub.
You need to get out on the water on beautiful days and embrace the wonderfulness you will find there. And you will: even if you have never been a water person, you can appreciate so many other things. Sailing satisfies pilots, nature lovers, poets/writers, philosophers, meditators, gymnasts, athletes, nurses/docs, safety-freaks, environmentalists, minimalists, campers, mechanics, electricians, seamstresses, plumbers, stargazers, circus families, tech nuts, weather
bugs, cooks... and, yes, mothers, as it will be wonderful for your kids.
And seriously, with a female teacher, you will learn so much more easily (women learn differently than men). You can learn to sail yes, but you can also learn to dock
the boat. You can learn to do a few essential knots. you can learn to determine where you are (when it looks like you are nowhere) and read a compass
. There are lots of skills that a teacher can teach you that will make sailing fun for you, that you can then share with the kids once on board together. Getting these skills down ahead of time will amplify your pleasure, willingness and self-confidence and (must i say it again?) SAVE your couple!
Once you feel the love for sailing, you will be on your way. But there is so much more you can learn. If you have the interest, you could learn about weather
systems and navigational aids. You can learn to do repairs
on the boat. boats have an array of systems to chose from: plumbing
, electricity, engine mechanics, sewing, woodwork, metal work... all this is actually very interesting and doable for a female!
You know you love your man. Once you learn the basics and really enjoy sailing the boat with him, you'll see, over and over and over again, how much he adores you! Sailing lessons
= a great investment!
Good luck girl!!