Good to have you on the forum, lots of very knowledgeable people post here and anyone can pick up a lot of information.
I have known quite a few people in your situation.. it works for some and doesn't for others but that is how life is in anything. I would suggest you consider taking sailing
classes yourself.. but not necessarily at the same time or in the same class as your husband.
Many if not most newer sailors tend to get the
Captain Bly syndrome with their crews.. wife included... this frequently doesn't last long as we tend to learn who the Admiral actually is and who is the Capitan.
You can often tell when you have turned the corner when the less physical person actually takes the
helm is things like
docking and setting
anchor... and the more physical person does the heavy
work... newer "skippers" can't seem to find this as a practical thing feeling "only" they can be at the
Helm when in fact the person "in command" is often Not the person at the Helm of a ship.
Don't try to force yourself to "love" sailing it is something that will either
work its way into your sole or will not. You can still enjoy it with out it being the "center" of your thought. Plans always change as knowledge is gained... work within your knowledge and ability.
While it may not be a smart thing to bring up...
buying a boat before you know how to effectively use it may not be the best thing to do. How do you really know what to look for? You and your husband may avoid significant
mistakes in boat selection if you first learn to sail via a qualified
school and take the opportunities to sail with others on different types of boats... then figure out what is important to you and your sailing plans and base your boat
purchase on those factors... less chance of being disapointed... boats are not very fluid in resale time and value except fluid always flows down hill.