Doug, Welcome!
ASA (American Sailing Association) teaches a
catamaran class as part of their sailing series. They teach a course you take after the beginning keelboats
classes. They seem to prefer to start with mono
hull sailing then teach the catamaran class as more of a these are the differences approach. They assume some intermediate level of keelboat sailing when you start. I think it gets you to the meat of the class to have that background first.
Obviously your J35 experience matches more of the types of things you want to learn more about. You might like the
ASA series and you can do them as a
liveaboard class in many areas. It's nice because it isn't just basic
sailing school, it's a lot of fun.
With all your experience, you should breeze through the basic class and most schools will let you "test out" of prerequisit
classes. I would encourage you and the Admiral to take the series as it covers just about everything and in most every way you both need the
training. My wife and I dd the
bareboat chartering series as a
liveaboard class in
San Diego - great place to take a class.
That would get you into a good position to
charter other boats and cover basic
boat operations through intermediate sailing as well as beginning
navigation. It's at that point you would take the ASA catamaran class. I would contact some of the schools and talk to them on the
phone to get a beter feel how they
work and if you like that approach. Each has it's own subtle differences. The liveaboard class we took in
San Diego was nice just us on the boat and an instructor from 9 to 3 every day. We each dd everything and slept aboard.
2 handed sailing you can handle a large boat, but it really means two handed with each of you doing all the various
parts working together. There isn't a size limit more as there is a skill limit and a level of practice and experience that is needed. Since you have sailed a J35 I would say when you both feel comfortable at that level the next steps are more a matter of practice and patience to build some experience and confidence. I think you'll get there faster starting smaller and working up as you grow plus learn together.
It would really be nice to just show up at the
dock and go, but I think you'll want to be able to get back too. If you make it a fun time
learning can be great fun too.