Dating while sailing

[Cpt Mark]

Hi Pam, you don't say your age but I find it interesting the reactions of some people re dating websites, expectations etc. I'm mid 60's and a lot of my friends are 30' and 40's and that generation seems to exclusively use dating apps. Best advice, try a few or a bunch and see if one works better for you.

I went through the hoops on the cf dating section. It is pretty dormant for guys but you might have better luck being single, female.

I used to live in the SF Bay area, sailed there for many years. If you want to meet sailors, go get a copy of Latitude 38, go to the racing section and find out where/when the beer cans are. Show up, introduce yourself and get on a boat. You can also do the more competitive racing if you'd like. There are a lot of guys out there and not many women.

Look under the "community tab". or easier just go here
https://www.cruisersforum.com/forums/groups/

[Navi2016]

Originally Posted by Joh.Ghurt

Hello Pam,

unpopular as it seems, dating apps aren't really a great option to find a partner for anything beyond a quick romp between the sheets. If you want something more durable, your investment in time is better spent on meeting people face to face. If you can't make this effort or don't have time for it, you'll probably won't be ready or have time for a meaningful relationship either.

Sure, you can swipe while you're sitting on the pot, but in the end, you'll end up with mostly disappointing results.

This is the gist of the experience of a bunch of female friends, who entertain me with their online-dating experiences. And women still have it easier than men, because at least they still have the choice of options. For the vast majority of men, online-dating is a total waste of time only gives a vague hope something might appear.

Oh, and in case you're one of the people having trouble to make contact with new people, don't worry. If you can learn to sail a boat, you're also able to learn to smile, be friendly and try to take interest in a stranger. It won't work all the time, but it works often enough to make it worthwhile.

Sorry, must disagree

Hi Pam

My experience with dating sites is simple, if your open an honest about your expectations you tend to get better results.

If your clear about wanting a relationship, and what your requirements are within that relationship it tends to discourage the other who want simply to romp

As far as apps, that’s going to depend on where your located and what your comfort level is ….

Facebook
Plenty of Fish
Match

I tend you say what I like / want and let the reader decide if they are open to the adventure. My wife ( I’m a widow now ) never knew she wanted to be a sailor until she meet me, I never knew I would enjoy the Tate Modern as much as I did … it’s all about the shared adventure

Hopefully that’s helpful ..

just be honest, open and cautiously optimistic

Cheers

[dannc]

Originally Posted by redhead

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Now I'm married, approaching my "sell-by" date and been told quite a lot that my men friends envy my mate and would give just about anything to meet a woman that loves all things ocean and boat-y, someone to have a conversation about navigation or bilge pumps with.

So, I say, sail in, find a gathering place near the water and smile, I'm almost positive they'll find you. Hope to see you out there!

Got a good laugh at the "sell-by" date comment.

I am lucky that my wifey wants the boat thing as much as I do. People will not likely believe this, but I had to convince her it was *** NOT *** the right time to buy a boat. Hopefully, this admission will not cause me to loose my CF Membership Card.

In spite of her being prone to sea sickness, the wifey still wants to go sailing, buy a boat, etc. We know of a couple of married men whose wife's will not go out on the boat or will only do so in a limited way. No criticism for those women, boats/sailing is not for everyone. One of the guys is "jealous" about how much my wife likes to go boating and sailing. He wishes his wife would get on a boat but she simply will not.

Later,
Dan

[AZCoyote]

Pam,


I can't say that I have had much luck with Match or OurTime (older folks). I have met some nice folks and the COVID made it complicated. I know others who have had success.


Another site more sailing oriented: https://www.lovesail.com/


If you are in FL . . . .


David

[chris95040]

Originally Posted by Tetepare

Christian websites may provide a higher caliber of people.

lol ok

[Steve_C]

Originally Posted by AZCoyote

Pam,

Another site more sailing oriented: https://www.lovesail.com/

Wow Pam,

Sorry you have gotten so many awful replies.

The lovesail site above is probably your best bet for meeting a like-minded sailing partner.

Best of luck!

[CynthiaM]

Originally Posted by Joh.Ghurt

Hello Pam,

unpopular as it seems, dating apps aren't really a great option to find a partner for anything beyond a quick romp between the sheets. If you want something more durable, your investment in time is better spent on meeting people face to face. If you can't make this effort or don't have time for it, you'll probably won't be ready or have time for a meaningful relationship either.

Sure, you can swipe while you're sitting on the pot, but in the end, you'll end up with mostly disappointing results.

This is the gist of the experience of a bunch of female friends, who entertain me with their online-dating experiences. And women still have it easier than men, because at least they still have the choice of options. For the vast majority of men, online-dating is a total waste of time only gives a vague hope something might appear.

Oh, and in case you're one of the people having trouble to make contact with new people, don't worry. If you can learn to sail a boat, you're also able to learn to smile, be friendly and try to take interest in a stranger. It won't work all the time, but it works often enough to make it worthwhile.

I disagree entirely. This is a big, wide world, and we now have the ability to narrow the field very quickly. There are several groups on Fb and there is the Lovesail site for singles. It's worldwide, but you can specify your area like any other dating app. Best of luck! I'm in the same boat...lol!

[Celestialsailor]

I'll just bet your PM box is filling quickly...lol
You can try here also...
https://www.latitude38.com/crew-list-home/

[RN2012]

Good evening!


I just discovered this thread and see that the SSSSM section was closed down in March 2022.


My wife passed away 2 years ago. We had a great life and lots of fun. Things are going well enough now, but these dating apps are awful. Meeting people in real life works better, but not many women are interested in cruising on a boat.


I live in Charleston, SC and sold my big boat (Trojan F32 twin diesel sport fish) last year, and am looking for an adventurous partner in crime to help decide what to buy next and where to go ...

[thomm225]

Just saw this.

When I was in my 40's and divorced, I was racing beach cats at least 9 months out of the year In Pensacola, FL.

So I had racing season then dating season.

With some brief get togethers in between.

It's all about your priorities!!

Luckily back then it was the mid 1990's so no real internet like today, no youtube, no netflicks, very few cell phones.

So when you went out to the beach after racing, the bars were full which made it nice.

[MicHughV]

Who can tell about these things. Like others, I tried the internet thing to no avail and finally said to hell with it.

Then I met my wife out of the blue...a pure 1:1,000,000 chance meeting. While I was gaga about her at first sight, she couldn't care less as to who I was. To make matters worse, I learned that she was 17 years my junior. I thought I was screwed before even starting.

So I had my work cut out for me, Kinda like catching a big fish offshore. You gotta tire the fish out and then reel 'em in ever so slowly.

And so it was....no speed dating here, slow and easy was the name of the game. days turned into weeks, weeks into months.

But I preserved, making absolutely sure I did nothing to rock the boat, 'twas not easy behaving myself for an old salt like me.

But I am happy to say, I am today married to possibly the most wonderful woman on the planet. We do everything together. She is truly the love of my life.

The moral of the story is these happenstance meetings can occur to anyone at any time, there is no telling when or where, but one thing is for sure, you'll know when it happens and then begins the slow waltz.

[Lepke]

If you're a man, get a vasectomy. I got divorced at 38 and thought I was done with women that "had to have a baby". A friend told me to get fixed. Best financial move I ever made. Later when your girlfriend wants to get married because she's pregnant you can give her the good news. It will be a memorable conversation.
Either they figure they will get pregnant soon after marriage or they saw a doctor and found they weren't the problem and used a stand in father. Probably you'll never know.

[ozdownunder]

Hi Pam, I'm Australian but in Florida Fort Lauderdale, I have a Fountaine Catamaran and living on my own.
I love free diving and scuba for underwater Photography, Love evert thing about boating and diving.
You can email me if you like ozdownunder@iinet.net.au

Keep Smiling

Regards Terry

[NorthCoastJoe]

Latitude 38 crew parties. The last one was in September.
I sail all over the bay and am always looking for people to go sailing with. My boats or theirs.
I have friends looking, it just means getting out there and being around boat people.