Single Men Living Aboard and Cruising... an honest look.

[gamayun]

After 1900 posts, we're starting to repeat our arguments. I'm having like deja vu all over again. Just as an aside, I must say that Twohullvenus is a great forum name. Anyone know what happened to him? I didn't read all the presvious posts. Did he get his box truck? Did he get the girl? Curious minds wanna know

[Olddan1943]

Perhaps it is time, in the interest of equal rights, we have a thread of "Single women living and cruising .... and honest look."

[gamayun]

Originally Posted by weavis

All great insights.

Can we perhaps move a fraction to the left and return to the topic itself regarding single men living aboard and cruising and related issues... We REALLY need to keep the theme of boating as a priority to keep the thread open. Collectively we will not be able to solve the problems of relationships but we can discuss realities of boats and the problems that beset men and ladies who have their own vessels.

I see great minds think alike! I am still catching up on all the posts I missed in the last 12 hours. You all are some of the most prolific and opinionated posters I've ever seen!!

[Pelagic]

I think we can all agree the people who live full time on boats are different.

After a while we tend to become hermit like.

We smell a little of "enclosed spaces"

We have that 'far away' look in our eye and as gamayun mentioned, we are opinionated and often lack social graces.

Maybe these general traits are not that attractive to non boat people.

[boatman61]

Maybe.. but the challenge we present is..

[Olddan1943]

Originally Posted by Pelagic

I think we can all agree the people who live full time on boats are different.

After a while we tend to become hermit like.

We smell a little of "enclosed spaces"

We have that 'far away' look in our eye and as gamayun mentioned, we are opinionated and often lack social graces.

Maybe these general traits are not that attractive to non boat people.

and no socially redeeming values. CHUCKLE

[Pelagic]

We have a habit of running away from shore side issues, when things get rough

[weavis]

Originally Posted by Pelagic

We have a habit of running away from shore side issues, when things get rough

[gamayun]

Originally Posted by Olddan1943

and no socially redeeming values. CHUCKLE

Hey, easy now I have noticed that I do feel "different" when I socialize with the land lubber crowd. I don't think I look or act differently, and I am tied to a dock so have all the accoutrement of normal living. Is it just me? Am I getting too boaty? I have also noticed that my clothes smell like whatever I've been cooking. Spiced paprika, I just found out, is not a good smell, but Eau du Diesel comes off a little too strong as well. At least there's not that strong head smell like when I first bought the boat!!

[Larry Florida]

Originally Posted by john61ct

Put them in charge completely for a thousand years.

I say the world would be a much better place within the first century.

Women are more in charge now than any time in history. How are things going?

50+ years into the women's movement seems a very large number of 70+ year old ladies are single. At least in Florida. When I put my condo up for rent in a 55+ community was thinking it would be perfect for an older couple. Of the dozen prospective tenants no couples. Single men, single women. Found that surprising as most unit owners are couples. I think a lot of people who bought into that women's movement came out on the short end of the stick. I realize it's only been 50 years but most people don't live to 100 and will miss the benefits of your prediction.

[Pelagic]

I think it could easily be argued that we Boaters are generally a self centred lot, concerned mostly with what is inside our lifelines and the next destination.

We may talk the talk, but rarely walk the walk.

[cyan]

Originally Posted by gamayun

I must say that Twohullvenus is a great forum name. Anyone know what happened to him? I didn't read all the presvious posts. Did he get his box truck? Did he get the girl? Curious minds wanna know

Twohullvenus has been gone from the thread for a couple years, but this thing lives on like one of those birthday candles that you can't blow out. The OP presented many posts that sounded so immature, sexist and braggadocios that many forum members did not take him seriously. A few thought he was using the thread in lieu of a shrink. Sadly, a couple of extra-harsh posters eventually called him nasty names and then he just left on his own.

His original premise was filled with unintentional comedy, as he contemplated giving up on his a catamaran building project and instead making a box truck camper to pick up "hot young girls". The silliness of this idea was colorfully debated and it was agreed that he probably did need a shrink. In the end, he waffled on the boat/truck decision in what appeared to be a post-divorce funk.(?) Dunno.

I haven't seen any hint of his final choice, but I'm guessing he would have been stoked to see that an actual woman post the question: "Did he get his box truck?"

[KiwiKen]

[QUOTE=BandB;2561208]It is known that many men have their heads buried in the sand, but then they've been divorced multiple times.

A divorcee remarrying, the triumph of optimism over experience.

The problems are multifold, male and female motives for marrying are generally not the same.
While a woman may like the concept of a home with a white picket fence with a family and security, for many men this becomes a thankless life of financial servitude and drudgery.

There are strong social pressures on single people to marry and settle down, particularly those over 30. Many married women see single women as a threat to the nest. Many married women see their husband's single male friends as a risk of leading their husband astray.

I am a man, aged 77, and have been married for 43 years, comfortable home with all the trappings and accessories, 3 adult children 6 grandchildren. It's been a life of work and personal sacrifice.
Frankly, if I had my time over again, would I marry - not bloody likely. How selfish of me to want my own life, doing my own thing and actually enjoying life.

[weavis]

this is the second to final post re moving back to something vaguely sailing related.

The choice is yours...

[weavis]

Originally Posted by gamayun

Hey, easy now I have noticed that I do feel "different" when I socialize with the land lubber crowd. I don't think I look or act differently, and I am tied to a dock so have all the accoutrement of normal living. Is it just me? Am I getting too boaty? I have also noticed that my clothes smell like whatever I've been cooking. Spiced paprika, I just found out, is not a good smell, but Eau du Diesel comes off a little too strong as well. At least there's not that strong head smell like when I first bought the boat!!

I am deciding on whether to put twin outboards on the boat rather than the diesel engines. I really am not in love with the smell....