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Old 22-01-2018, 11:51   #1906
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it is the guy who is passionate about the same thing as me: this is when it is really incredible. this is when the hours spent together are alive, and the days and nights spent working are really al we could hope for.

i've really only lived this once in my life (with the one who got killed) but am more than certain that this is the most important thing for me beyond kindness and all of those other wonderful traits (having humor being really and truly the cherry on the cake), and this, because it is about having a goal that is attainable outside of of each in the couple and the couple itself. and because it requires the very best from each, as a team.

WifeyB (you are so fortunate girl, good for both of you!!!), would you agree with this?
Wifey B: I'd agree with shared passions. I think you must share values and basic beliefs. These are at the very roots of your relationship. We've formed an extended family now and we share these things with them. We love them all deeply.

We read each other's minds, know their thoughts. There have been many times in our lives we've found ourselves in situations and we took action together without a single word being said to initiate it. We just knew what we had to do and what the other was going to do. We don't have to ask each other because we already know the answer.
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Old 22-01-2018, 12:26   #1907
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Women spend more time wondering what men are thinking than men spend thinking.
Mmm, not really. And yet you're on here with me debating it, too
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Old 22-01-2018, 12:47   #1908
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Mmm, not really. And yet you're on here with me debating it, too
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Old 22-01-2018, 12:54   #1909
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Lovely post BandB and its wonderful to feel that passion and deep love for your partner.

To me passion translates to a sometimes dangerous double edge sword, where perspective can be overshadowed by commitment and loss or reversals can become totally debilitating.

Maybe its an age thing where perspective becomes more important as you get older.

I do know though, that my partner inspires me to be a nicer, more patient person, in areas important to her. She has actually tempered my passions with sensitivity.
"I got Soul, but I'm not a Soldier"
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Old 22-01-2018, 13:22   #1910
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Wifey B: I'd agree with shared passions. I think you must share values and basic beliefs. These are at the very roots of your relationship. We've formed an extended family now and we share these things with them. We love them all deeply.

We read each other's minds, know their thoughts. There have been many times in our lives we've found ourselves in situations and we took action together without a single word being said to initiate it. We just knew what we had to do and what the other was going to do. We don't have to ask each other because we already know the answer.
yes, yes, it is incredible when people become so entangled! incredible! it is so wonderful!

yet, Pelagic has a point about the loss of this...

oh my...
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Old 22-01-2018, 14:20   #1912
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Hey Chichi! Still on plan for your great escape?

I'm just killing time in la paz, got a welder coming over to make a boarding ladder. Getting too lazy to climb up the bobstay or throw my kayak in the water every time I want to dive off the boat. I'll leave this (amazingly long) thread alone after that......
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Old 22-01-2018, 14:28   #1913
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Hey Chichi! Still on plan for your great escape?

I'm just killing time in la paz, got a welder coming over to make a boarding ladder. Getting too lazy to climb up the bobstay or throw my kayak in the water every time I want to dive off the boat. I'll leave this (amazingly long) thread alone after that......

geez, your life sounds rough! reading this amazingly long thread must be perfect for those days when it is too gorgeous out to even look outside. La Paz, enjoy goat!

good luck with that ladder!
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Maybe its an age thing where perspective becomes more important as you get older.

I do know though, that my partner inspires me to be a nicer, more patient person, in areas important to her. She has actually tempered my passions with sensitivity.
"I got Soul, but I'm not a Soldier"
Wifey B: I don't think that means you have any less passion. You just utilize it differently. Passion doesn't have to be big or loud or outrageous. It can be gentle, sensitive, and subtle. Sometimes it's just caring deeply.
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Old 22-01-2018, 15:36   #1915
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Wifey B: I don't think that means you have any less passion. You just utilize it differently. Passion doesn't have to be big or loud or outrageous. It can be gentle, sensitive, and subtle. Sometimes it's just caring deeply.
Good point!
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Women spend more time wondering what men are thinking than men spend thinking.
Well . . . some men are more 'exceptional' than others.
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Today's the day for the Woman's March all around the US, and one of the many messages I'm hearing is that our lack of sensitivity towards women is probably all just a function of our male privilege.
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All that seems to indicate is that women are smarter and tougher than men
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Old 22-01-2018, 17:06   #1919
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Today's the day for the Woman's March all around the US, and one of the many messages I'm hearing is that our lack of sensitivity towards women is probably all just a function of our male privilege.
I think privilege is the wrong word. It's power. It's then abuse of power. Those who abuse their power by sexually harassing the opposite sex are generally very abusive to the same sex as well, just not sexually. How often you hear, "well, I knew he was an a...hole, I just didn't know he was doing that." They typically abuse their power in very many ways.

Now, as to the things in the chart you showed. I'd say those are tied to power as well and an inability to handle it properly.

Traditionally more men have been in positions of power than women. However, women who find themselves in positions of power sometimes abuse it too.
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I think privilege is the wrong word. It's power. It's then abuse of power. Those who abuse their power by sexually harassing the opposite sex are generally very abusive to the same sex as well, just not sexually. How often you hear, "well, I knew he was an a...hole, I just didn't know he was doing that." They typically abuse their power in very many ways.

Now, as to the things in the chart you showed. I'd say those are tied to power as well and an inability to handle it properly.

Traditionally more men have been in positions of power than women. However, women who find themselves in positions of power sometimes abuse it too.
It is known that women control 3/4 of the money and all of the p++++.
How much more power do you want?
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