Single Men Living Aboard and Cruising... an honest look.

[Exile]

Originally Posted by gamayun

Yup, it all comes back to the DOG again!

Cheers!

[Pelagic]

I can't find the data but women apparently react to a man's smell quite strongly and are influenced by it subliminally first.

As far as traits, pretty general like this 10.

https://www.askmen.com/top_10/dating...-in-a-man.html

[wolfgal]

Originally Posted by weavis

Well it actually a rework of old data but they considered the conclusion was the same.

Well Ill tell yah...

People with passion in their lives are driven. They don’t just meander or float through life, they have purpose. They have something they live for, something they care about with an intensity that you just don’t see often. Women find this the most attractive trait.

Go figure...

Am in train, will respond later, BUT this IS my answer!

Chichi

[wolfgal]

Originally Posted by Pelagic

I can't find the data but women apparently react to a man's smell quite strongly and are influenced by it subliminally first.

As far as traits, pretty general like this 10.

https://www.askmen.com/top_10/dating...-in-a-man.html

Sooooooo true! I can still conjure up two particular body smells, those of the two men i loved the most (my first boyfriend and the guy i called ´the one). The smell can drive a gal nuts!

Some men do not have a smell that is attractive to me and, if that’s the case, Nothing....

[goat]

Originally Posted by gamayun

One of my favorite sayings is "Float Purposefully Through Life." This defines the constant contradictions we face -- nothing is black or white -- as well as the fight-or-flight conundrum when faced with something difficult. Applies to sailing very well.

The word 'coddiwomple' comes to mind.

[john61ct]

Passion and focus on goals may well be attractive to many, but I bet the goals themselves are also relevant.

One can be passionate about missions having nothing to do with material wealth or accomplishing things related to social status, or even what we see as "productivity".

A hermit living in a cave laser-focused on his spiritual growth, maybe not so much?

But then he'd likely be wary of acquiring a partner anyway 8-)

[boatman61]

Originally Posted by Chichi

Sooooooo true! I can still conjure up two particular body smells, those of the two men i loved the most (my first boyfriend and the guy i called ´the one). The smell can drive a gal nuts!

Some men do not have a smell that is attractive to me and, if that’s the case, Nothing....

Compatible Pheromone's..

[john61ct]

We are not one being but a myriad, at that level, ones micro-biome and their (/ "our") DNA runs the show, closely interrelated with our diet.

[boatman61]

Originally Posted by john61ct

We are not one being but a myriad, at that level, ones micro-biome and their (/ "our") DNA runs the show, closely interrelated with our diet.

Thats for sure.. pickled eggs and Guiness are a sure fire killer..

[BandB]

Wifey B: Passion has been mentioned and I think it's one of the most important things in life. It starts with passion for life itself and extends to passion for a partner, passion for others, passion for causes, passion for one's work and play.

I don't think hubby or I had either found our passion for life prior to meeting. Perhaps that's the greatest thing one person can do for another and a couple can do for each other is bring all the passion out, inspire the passion of their partner. We were caring people but not inspired people. Once together we became unstoppable. I think of Man of La Mancha and the one line from the song, Impossible Dream. It is, "To Be Willing to March into Hell for a Heavenly Cause."

What a beautiful song,

To dream the impossible dream
To fight the unbeatable foe
To bear with unbearable sorrow
To run where the brave dare not go

To right the unrightable wrong
To love pure and chaste from afar
To try when your arms are too weary
To reach the unreachable star

This is my quest
To follow that star
No matter how hopeless
No matter how far
To fight for the right
Without question or pause
To be willing to march into hell
For a heavenly cause

And I know if I'll only be true
To this glorious quest
That my heart will lie peaceful and calm
When I'm laid to my rest

And the world will be better for this
That one man, scorned and covered with scars
Still strove with his last ounce of courage
To reach the unreachable star

My man is Don Quixotic and I have to remind him he can't save the world. However, I know whether it's me or one of our friends, whoever he sees in need, he will run to.

I know we are both better for having met the other. We're both braver, more courageous. We both are more determined and more committed to what we believe in.

Whether it's a passion for sailing or for nature or for the one you do it with, passion is so important. Without it you are just walking the steps of life but not truly alive, not living as you can. Not savoring every moment and making the most of every day. Not all you can be.

Surround yourself in life with those who do stir the passion inside you, with those who make you better, with those who are healthy for you. There are too many ready to tear you down, trying to take you down to their level, looking out only for themselves. You have a choice.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RfHnzYEHAow

[wolfgal]

Originally Posted by john61ct

Passion and focus on goals may well be attractive to many, but I bet the goals themselves are also relevant.

One can be passionate about missions having nothing to do with material wealth or accomplishing things related to social status, or even what we see as "productivity".

A hermit living in a cave laser-focused on his spiritual growth, maybe not so much?

But then he'd likely be wary of acquiring a partner anyway 8-)

John, you bring up a good point here.... only ... it is not so much if it is about the goals themselves; it is more about how well the goals can be shared.

a guy who pursues his passion while his woman gets to do all the routine-anyone-can-do-it-i'm sick-of it work is not the kind of passionate guy i'd turn for. i made this mistake once....

it is the guy who is passionate about the same thing as me: this is when it is really incredible. this is when the hours spent together are alive, and the days and nights spent working are really al we could hope for.

i've really only lived this once in my life (with the one who got killed) but am more than certain that this is the most important thing for me beyond kindness and all of those other wonderful traits (having humor being really and truly the cherry on the cake), and this, because it is about having a goal that is attainable outside of of each in the couple and the couple itself. and because it requires the very best from each, as a team.

WifeyB (you are so fortunate girl, good for both of you!!!), would you agree with this?

Weavis, does the study suggest anything of this sort? seems pretty logical, doesn't it?

[wolfgal]

Originally Posted by boatman61

Thats for sure.. pickled eggs and Guiness are a sure fire killer..

never ate a pickled egg boatie...

maybe i should eat these and THEN try crewing again?

[boatman61]

Originally Posted by Chichi

never ate a pickled egg boatie...

maybe i should eat these and THEN try crewing again?

NONONO.. Only if you want to swim to shore..

[gamayun]

Originally Posted by goat

The word 'coddiwomple' comes to mind.

Love it

I noticed all the women talking about passion as one of the attractive traits in a male, but the men are....ahem...talking about smells. Soooo, I came across this video today that shines the light on what men are really thinking. Warning, it's not really a shocker, but it contains Brit humor (or rather, humour!)

https://www.facebook.com/thedailymas...0191603756670/

You'll probably need a Facebook account to open it, but if you're in the UK, you can probably go to the Daily Mash site instead.

[goat]

Originally Posted by gamayun

Love it

I noticed all the women talking about passion as one of the attractive traits in a male, but the men are....ahem...talking about smells. Soooo, I came across this video today that shines the light on what men are really thinking. Warning, it's not really a shocker, but it contains Brit humor (or rather, humour!)

https://www.facebook.com/thedailymas...0191603756670/

You'll probably need a Facebook account to open it, but if you're in the UK, you can probably go to the Daily Mash site instead.

Women spend more time wondering what men are thinking than men spend thinking.