Liveaboard Dating

[jgbrown]

Originally Posted by GrowleyMonster

Both together, work pretty good for me. Just the sex is okay, too. Love without sex could get kinda awkward. Biological urges and all....

Nah, that's called family

Seriously though, that sometimes happens in a relationship too, feelings change. Can love someone without wanting to sleep with them. Best to let them know, and end things as friends then though I think. Avoids the awkwardness, and let's you try to cause the least hurt you can, instead of waiting until it's unavoidable and the source of arguments. Boats can magnify any sort of friction especially if they're small, no un-shared space means a lot of thoughtfulness is needed.

Back on the dating topic, a fireplace in a boat is great. Somehow I think the idea that there's a fireplace replaces the mental image of a tiny damp cave with that of a comfortable floating apartment.

[FruiVita]

"Back on the dating topic, a fireplace in a boat is great. Somehow I think the idea that there's a fireplace replaces the mental image of a tiny damp cave with that of a comfortable floating apartment."

I tried having a fireplace on my boat and it was a disaster. First, all those bricks nearly sank her and the boom was always banging against the chimney. But what did her in was using wood that was a bit damp from all that sea air. Damn thing smoked me out of the cabin and then a wayward ember caught some diesel fumes in the bilge. I think she's still in a low orbit above the East Coast.

[David_Old_Jersey]

Originally Posted by FruiVita

I tried having a fireplace on my boat and it was a disaster. First, all those bricks nearly sank her and the boom was always banging against the chimney. But what did her in was using wood that was a bit damp from all that sea air. Damn thing smoked me out of the cabin and then a wayward ember caught some diesel fumes in the bilge. I think she's still in a low orbit above the East Coast.

But how did the date go?

[SunDevil]

Plasmavironments™ Fireplace DVD - The Ultimate Christmas Yule Log Fireplace DVD

Next time try the fireplace DVD. Wait to have a real campfire on a beach where it is allowed.

[mub]

Originally Posted by jgbrown

Seriously though, that sometimes happens in a relationship too, feelings change. Can love someone without wanting to sleep with them. Best to let them know, and end things as friends then though I think. Avoids the awkwardness, and let's you try to cause the least hurt you can, instead of waiting until it's unavoidable and the source of arguments.

I think that accurately describes my relationship with my ex.
And if the change in feelings aren't mutual the upset is inevitable.

But nothing that a good lawyer cant deal with.

Hang on did I use good and lawyer in the same sentience in a thread on dating?

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Seriously.. IF boats are a big part of your life you do need to find someone who appreciates and enjoys that.
I spent a cold day today on a friends C&C 41 who at the tender age of ~60 got married to someone who loves his passion too. After about 8years they are still silly in love. It was so good to see.

I hope it doesn't take that long for me - but 20 years of the present would be better than the previous 20 years of unhappy marriage to a woman who hated my boats and loathes water. Who expected that because she married me I would give them up for her.

So dont lose faith.. hang in the places that good women hang ( Marinas -yacht clubs - forums like this etc ) and things will I am sure happen.
Dating is possible - I have already proved that. Just need to keep your eyes open, but don't become too desperate.

Mub

[ArtM]

Originally Posted by Ram

That must cut down on alot of woman-

Think of the message it sends:

Single man with a boat, a 2 seat sports car, and a large dog.

It says "sorry, no room for a third".

[flysci]

Originally Posted by ArtM

Think of the message it sends:
It says "sorry, no room for a third".

I agree with this. Don't most 2 seaters have a space behind the seats where a dog can sit? While she's still a guest, she should get her own seat. Free of dog hair. It's simple good manners.

[Vino the Dog]

Grrr, grrr, well OK, she can have her own seat, but the "free of dog hair" part is out of the questions unless she is dressed to the nines and we take HER car (with dog in the back).

[Ram]

Originally Posted by Vino the Dog

Grrr, grrr, well OK, she can have her own seat, but the "free of dog hair" part is out of the questions unless she is dressed to the nines and we take HER car (with dog in the back).

haha!

[Heinous]

Originally Posted by SunDevil

Plasmavironments™ Fireplace DVD - The Ultimate Christmas Yule Log Fireplace DVD

Next time try the fireplace DVD. Wait to have a real campfire on a beach where it is allowed.

Hahaha. I have a fireplace video that I used to throw on from time to time when it was chilly. I would inconspicuously turn on the electric heater at the same time, too. Quite a few very-hot-but-not-so-bright California girls would actually believe the fireplace video was heating the boat. No joke.

[Ram]

Originally Posted by Heinous

Hahaha. Quite a few very-hot-but-not-so-bright California girls would actually believe the fireplace video was heating the boat. No joke.

Come on they were pulling your .. urrr....leg?

[Laffangurl]

So, trying to catch up (again)...you want a girl who not only lives boats, water and you in general, must also love dogs who shed and know diff between a DVD and heater?
Does that sum it up? ;-)

[boatman61]

I know of a very nice French lady who'd love a Bahamian cruise...

[Vino the Dog]

Add non-smoking, health food eating, musician, and we got a date. Your car or mine? Oh yeah... must be able to lift dog into dinghy! Any race, religion, or hair color OK - I ain't fussy.

[Laffangurl]

Gee, it sounds so simple!