Originally Posted by Yowieboy
You need a woman who is also a magician...
I suppose maybe you both need to be magicians-- but only for each other. The trust has to be really strong and each of you has to know the other one has your best interest at heart. But knowing your partner's competency also helps.
I'm the poster who started the Becoming Invisible thread, and I could just have easily started Becoming Visible. About 20 yrs. or so ago, we were tying up in a tiny harbor in NSW, Crowdy head
. An old guy offered to take our two dock
lines. I asked him to affix to one starboard pile, and one port pile, and he didn't do it, put both lines on one. Politely, Invisible Ann thanked him.
got up and we were helping a cat get off the fuel dock
and come out into the middle, where the pier was. Same old guy on the dock. Skipper
directed us to the front of the two hulls. Jim and I each had our own. We both flipped bowlines onto the lines to fit over the piles. The next day, the old guy said good morning to me. See, competence counts with fisherfolk, too. It could be I showed myself to be competent crew even though a shiela,
or that he assumed incompetence of most grandmotherly women
, not entirely, really sexist, more related to boating
, somehow. After all, skill, wherever you find it, is a blessing, regardless of gender, and middle aged women
not often suspected of competency.