There are plenty of options for finding pre-loved spars. Many already mentioned, & even ebay.
As to figuring out if a perspective spar will
work for your
boat, if it's not obvious that it's strong enough. Then this book help you with 90% of the math which you need in order to figure it out
Brion Toss Yacht Riggers, Sailboat Rigging::Search Results
And, FYI, a new edition of the book is coming out soon, as per a
posting on Amazon.
But the math isn't very complicated. If you made it through Junior High, you can follow the calculations as ladi out in said reference, just fine.
Plus, it's got a Lot of other useful
rigging info. Much of it which will save you $ in the long run, & some of it's just plain fun.