One of the nice things about the
Navy is they have unlimited funds and thousands of
deck hands to do all the
work. The biggest boat you can sail is far too big for you to maintain all on your own. If you choose a large 50 ft boat, you have a whole lot of
work ahead of you and that assumes the boat is in great shape when you get it. Just like the US Navy, boats are going bad while you sleep. This isn't a hull material issue at all. It's all the stuff attached. The biggest boat you can maintain is a lot smaller than the one you might be looking at. The 2nd week after you buy it has plenty of work for you.
I've tried to compute the workload per foot but it's not as easy as linear but it's not as bad as exponential. I've gone 33 to 36 (42 LOA) and I wouldn't go up again. At least as far as I can think about. At 54 I'm not looking for more work. They all take a lot of work so don't be fooled into thinking there are free lunches. I will say it is a lot easier if you pick a boat you like.
When it comes to picking boats you can narrow the list but your wife picks the boat. It would be good to educate her about boats in a way she can understand. This is called defensive boat
shopping. As you will soon learn (you already know):
The
rule of Admiralty: You are the
Captain of any ship you own and the Admiral is always right. From there is gets much easier.