zippy,
I'm in a blunt mood, so batten down your hatches. I think that
safety in a seaway is a higher priority than never sleeping in a V-berth. Here's why:
V-berths may be double
bed sized--ours is. It offers great
passage snoozing when the
wind is aft of the beam or there are light airs. Our settees offer heavy
weather sleeping.
I agree with you that it is easier to exit a double sided berth in the night for ablutions or checking on stuff, and I share your preference for an aft
cockpit boat, and there's the ease of making the
bed, too. This boat is a one-off, but an
Adams 40 offers a configuration that might
work for you.
However, for what it's worth, our boat has two department store doubles: the guest cabin and the forecabin. And that arrangement has worked well for about 55,000 n. mi.
Choose your boat for her seaworthiness; then worry about the accommodations. Sailing the world is not the same as car touring or caravan (motor home) touring. The ocean offer imperators; and you better be able to deal with them, or suffer the humiliation and shame of [ugh!] asking for help. .....And there could be worse consequences.
Ann