i have not read through all of these pages...
But, in life, where ever we have traveled or lived, or visited, we treat people with respect. if there some kind of click, that has formed after years and years, so be it.
I have the greatest mate, love, and best friend that anyone could want.
that is what is primary in my life....but we both like people and have no problem meeting others . But that does not mean everyone loves us.
We would also have s ship shape vessel, squared way from dock
lines secured with proper cleat hitches, with bitter ends back to the boat
, or flemished out on the docks.
The bow pulpit would not be riding out and over the dock
for those living there to run into and maybe be injured.
Halyards silenced, running rigging
squared away, the decks clear of piles of gear
in good shape, main properly flaked and sail cover
on , good condition ultra violet protector for the jib
. Or hanked on sails
Be thoughtful of the neighbors, and just give them a smile, and always greet them with respect.
We would not expect to be part of tight group when we first arrived. If TRUE friendships result , then great, If not we will continue to treat everyone with respect, and gain new and different friends when ashore. And more than likely, some of the long time live aboards as well.
We could care less about face book, and telling others how to live their lives.
All we can do is live our own lives. If we did meet some neat people from the marina, and we invite them over for a drink, and they accept Good stuff.
Usually through honest two way conversation, not I pods, or smart phones, or tablets, but human interaction, friends and acquaintences are made.
We generally are amazed at what these people have done and what we actually have in common. Listen to what they say, and wait for them to finish their statement.
We do not get involved in petty crap...zero....who cares.
How about having some situational awareness, where maybe you could ask to lend a hand. Unconditional kindness, or even greetings, but always respectful. If it is accepted great, if it is not, well that is the way things go.
And have a squared way and well taken care of vessel, and let her show your seamanship.
Gain respect on all aspects by your actions. If a friend is to be made, outstanding, but we do not need a click . A few true friends would be good enough for us. But, we would still be polite and greet everyone . Sometimes verbally, or a smile, or nod, and look them in the eye .
And another way we live...IF YOU CANNOT SAY SOMETHING NICE ABOUT SOME ONE, SHUT THE HELL UP.
That is part of the way that we live.
And there is another age old addage...
Some ya win,, some ya lose, and some are rained out.