I am in Mexico, if the timing is wright I might be able to help you sail the boat if your husband can come too, will be much better, because of to rightnow is just me, I could talk my wife in it to it, but she depends on the time also.
I have never crossed an ocean but I have some experience in long distance sailing.
Because what read on the thread seems to me that some issues have been overlooked, so I suggest the following:
1.- The boat has to be prepared to do an ocean crossing
, the most important issues are the following:
-Deck and Hull
joint has to be inspected.
-Hull has to be sound.
also has to be sound.
Basically having a sound hull
and rigg is all it takes to be safe, cosmetics and conforts of the boat is another issue that has nothing to do with safety
Without fancy electronics
I will advice to have at least 3 people on board.
If you have not find any solid help yet, you are welcome to contact me I can find a way to assist you.