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Old 17-04-2016, 19:27   #1
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CF regulars

Just a note of thanks to those that keep good conversations going with their informed and social comments.

All to often I find myself deleting a reply after a couple of paragraphs because I find my reply unintentionally harsh or somewhat insulting. Need I mention obtuse?

Thanks again
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Old 17-04-2016, 20:33   #2
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Hey, I've done that also.
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Old 18-04-2016, 08:22   #3
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I've heard it said that the way to appear wise is to think of something stupid to say ... and then don't say it.

Too often I remember that too late.😚


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Old 18-04-2016, 08:27   #4
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Yep, sometimes I get thru a post and decide I'm not saying anything new and delete it.
Sometimes I say it anyway to add one more vote for a certain direction in the debate.
Contentious debates I often post once and never come back! The OP can choose who to ignore.
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Old 18-04-2016, 22:56   #5
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Re: CF regulars

Cheekako, et al,

I'm lurking here, and want to say that I, too, often find it hard to hang in there, and let all the contentious people vent their spleen on each other. I really don't like it when people are snarky. And sometimes I bug out. It is, after all, sort of illusory that we are a "community."

When you're out cruising, you put some effort into being friends with everybody, but face to face, people are/ behave more agreeable/y, and they moderate their behavior based on the visual feedback they're getting. There is a more real sense of community, to me.

Personally, i think it's a lot harder, in writing, to say just what you want to say, in a way that it will come across as just that, and nothing different. I re-write, I delete. I even give up sometimes. None of that shows, but it's part of my process, and possibly others'.

Don CL started a thread about people or events or aspects of nature that happened while you were cruising. That was really hard, finding words-wise. Some things are perhaps better shared over a cuppa or a glassa?

Cheers, guys,

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Old 18-04-2016, 23:20   #6
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I do this regularly, but maybe not enough..lol.

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I try to remind myself that I don't usually get in trouble by keeping my mouth shut.
Sometimes I forget though lol.
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I feel CF is more interesting with a little hate and snarky added in once in a while. Otherwise it would mostly just be a place to ask the same old questions because you are too lazy to search for your "never before" asked question where you are darning people to answer it again.
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Yep, sometimes I get thru a post and decide I'm not saying anything new and delete it.
Wow you must type and delete a lot then based on the number posts that make it to "submit reply"
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Old 19-04-2016, 15:10   #10
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I wish more people were self editing
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Some people I wish were self deleting.


Oops. That is probably one of the replies I should have self edited.


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I try to remind myself that I don't usually get in trouble by keeping my mouth shut.
Sometimes I forget though lol.
Or, as my Grampa used to say; "when you're up to your eyeballs in s*!t, keep your mouth shut"

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Re: CF regulars

As I've said often enough to bore most of you, I'm here for two reasons:

A. To find out about systems, how much they cost and the stuff NOT to do.
B. To share stuff with people as crazy or crazier than I who live this odd life.

As soon as it gets political enough or insulting enough I just log off. Snarky's different, I can grin at a little snark. I've learned more than I planned when I first logged on and for that I'm grateful.
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