It sounds like you have it pretty well sorted. Get the inner forestay with a
roller furling jib, it requires running backs and a substantial ring frame or cable to carry the load from
deck to
hull. When adding the sheave box look to see where your pole
lift exits the
mast, its best if it is above the exit of the inner forestay.
Regarding changing headsails at sea. Without a large crew it's tough to do partially because the
sails are big and partially because the luff is loose, the sail can and will go everywhere. When we were
racing it took half a dozen guys to change from a #1 to a #3 and we always tried to do it inside out (ie raise the new sail on the inner track, tack then lower the old sail, now on the inside against the sail you just raised). Then you have to put away the sail you just brought down. That requires a sausage bag and bricking the sail into thirds, stuffing it into the bag and dragging the bag below. Depending on the
jib the weight could be 150#'s.
Sailing a big
boat with a small crew requires window shades forward of the
mast, an easily reefed main and easy way to
project sail when going downwind so a carbon pole and socks are needed.
Hope this helps. Our rig is 93' off the
water, we've learned a lot over the past 20 years we've owned the
boat.
Photo below of the misses changing out the main
halyard from the very tough sail from the
East Coast to the
Caribbean last fall. Thanks to FKG in
St Martin for fixing us up with a new
halyard and North
Sails for repairing the staysail which is not on the
furler in this picture.