Shy Cruising or don't invite me to the Potluck :)

[Capt RonB]

Originally Posted by Lake-Effect

We're getting another polar vortex thingy this week, so this thread is keeping me warm.

Truth

[sailstoo]

Introversion

Introversion is "the state of or tendency toward being wholly or predominantly concerned with and interested in one's own mental life".[4] Some popular writers have characterized introverts as people whose energy tends to expand through reflection and dwindle during interaction.[5] This is similar to Jung's view, although he focused on mental energy rather than physical energy. Few modern conceptions make this distinction.
The common modern perception is that introverts tend to be more reserved and less outspoken in groups. They often take pleasure in solitary activities such as reading, writing, using computers, hiking and fishing. The archetypal artist, writer, sculptor, engineer, composer and inventor are all highly introverted. An introvert is likely to enjoy time spent alone and find less reward in time spent with large groups of people, though he or she may enjoy interactions with close friends. Trust is usually an issue of significance: a virtue of utmost importance to introverts is choosing a worthy companion. They prefer to concentrate on a single activity at a time and like to observe situations before they participate, especially observed in developing children and adolescents.[6] They are more analytical before speaking.[7] Introverts are easily overwhelmed by too much stimulation from social gatherings and engagement, introversion having even been defined by some in terms of a preference for a quiet, more minimally stimulating external environment.[8]
Introversion is not the same thing as shyness but it is often mistaken as such by extraverts. Introverts prefer solitary activities over social ones, whereas shy people (who may be extraverts at heart) avoid social encounters out of fear.[9]

[s/v Jedi]

We won't take "no" for an answer! Drag you by the hairs out of that dark cave, force you into "sail fast, live slow" T-shirts, on to the over-organized hi-di-hi, ho-di-ho designated area, put you at a table to play Mexican Train dominoes, every 5 minutes start screaming and demand that every player swaps seats with other players, then put a paper crown on your head when you win.

not.done.yet.



drag you away from the dominoes, empty a bottle of cheap rum into your throat, then a half pack of cigarettes so smoke smoke smoke, or would you prefer p0t?! Now we shout, shout and dance, dance, drink, drink, smoke more, jump into the pool and out and on and on it goes!

We'll put some decent social skills into y'all

[sailorchic34]

Originally Posted by sailstoo

Introversion

Introversion is "the state of or tendency toward being wholly or predominantly concerned with and interested in one's own mental life".[4] Some popular writers have characterized introverts as people whose energy tends to expand through reflection and dwindle during interaction.[5] This is similar to Jung's view, although he focused on mental energy rather than physical energy. Few modern conceptions make this distinction.
The common modern perception is that introverts tend to be more reserved and less outspoken in groups. They often take pleasure in solitary activities such as reading, writing, using computers, hiking and fishing. The archetypal artist, writer, sculptor, engineer, composer and inventor are all highly introverted. An introvert is likely to enjoy time spent alone and find less reward in time spent with large groups of people, though he or she may enjoy interactions with close friends. Trust is usually an issue of significance: a virtue of utmost importance to introverts is choosing a worthy companion. They prefer to concentrate on a single activity at a time and like to observe situations before they participate, especially observed in developing children and adolescents.[6] They are more analytical before speaking.[7] Introverts are easily overwhelmed by too much stimulation from social gatherings and engagement, introversion having even been defined by some in terms of a preference for a quiet, more minimally stimulating external environment.[8]
Introversion is not the same thing as shyness but it is often mistaken as such by extraverts. Introverts prefer solitary activities over social ones, whereas shy people (who may be extraverts at heart) avoid social encounters out of fear.[9]

That's hitting pretty close to the mark. Gee who knew engineers were introverts.

[FSMike]

I think the ideal "shy" ensign would be invisible, otherwise somebody might dinghy over to ask about it.

[StuM]

Just fly the yellow and black Lima Flag

[minaret]

Originally Posted by FSMike

I think the ideal "shy" ensign would be invisible, otherwise somebody might dinghy over to ask about it.

Couldn't it just be the usual "cocktail flag" inverted, ie drink poured out?

[GILow]

Originally Posted by FSMike

I think the ideal "shy" ensign would be invisible, otherwise somebody might dinghy over to ask about it.

Bugger! Back to the drawing board.

[markpierce]

Both Delta and Echo flags each state "keep away." Asocial types should consider hoisting. Now the question is, will other boaters get the meaning? Perhaps to add an exclamation, how's about a loud signal toward those attempting to approach?

[valhalla360]

Originally Posted by sailorchic34

LOL, If I'm too polite they might ask me again. Wheres the point in that... Really with my "anti-social disorder", rude sort of works. I don't need a reason to not go to a party, pot luck or what ever. To be nice, I might say that I need to give the cat a bath or need to change the oil in the engine. Though I'll probably just say no thank you and call it good.

No doubt being rude works (and saying you would rather give your cat a bath is going to be taken as a nasty response by most).

You likely will never be asked again, just don't be upset when a nasty attitude breeds a nasty attitude back.

[boatman61]

I don't think I'm an introvert.. if I was there'd be a lot more posts by me.. not a mere 12K+ in 4 yrs..
Some may say however.. I should go out more often..

[captain58sailin]

Well boaty, this place is fairly inexpensive entertainment. In my mind there is a huge difference between a bunch of people, I don't know gathering on the beach to sacrifice a virgin only twice removed, and having a potluck with people I know and are comfortable with. The odd poker/domino game on a friend's boat is good too. I define a true friend as someone I trust with my thoughts, Wife, and dog, never my boat, booze or money. Interaction with the locals if vastly different than partying with a bunch of people I don't know. I have an argument with being anti social as being defined as a disorder. As far as I'm concerned the ones on the opposite end of the spectrum are the ones with the disorder. If someone goes out of their way to put on a party, then it is for their benefit not yours, and if you decline politely, whether it be a cat washing engagement or if you just don't feel like going out, then no one should be offended. Seems like in today's culture there is this frenetic need for incessant interaction, thanks I'll pass. I blame it on texting and Iphones, and the internet.

[captain58sailin]

Like I said, the more I know people, the better I like my dog. He is smart, and if you piss him off, he lets you know right away.

[Blue Crab]

Call me antisocial but this does not look like fun. Kinda reminds me of a Harley getogether. Not a hard dink loner in sight. Pretty sure no one will miss my absence. Looks like a good time to shower nakid on boat.

[MarkJ]

Kinda surprised at the heat in some folks words in this thread.
I thought the thing about being allowed to do what ever one likes, wether shy, extrovert, loner, or whatever, without someone being critical of it.

If someone is shy and prefers to remain on their boat, thats fine.... But if they sit there slagging off other people because the others like socialising and meeting new people, then its a bit rude.