My Confession

[Ex-Calif]

Originally Posted by BubbleHeadMd

That's awesome. I just love being pigeon-holed because of my gender. Thanks very much.

Well now that I know I am one of the rare non-crusty, non-hermit types it explains why I pull so many chicks...

Problem is they all want to talk, get p.o'd when I don't say please and won't leave me alone on my boat

[James S]

Originally Posted by Ex-Calif

Well now that I know I am one of the rare non-crusty, non-hermit types it explains why I pull so many chicks...

Problem is they all want to talk, get p.o'd when I don't say please and won't leave me alone on my boat

Yeh...its the Curse....glad Its not just me!

[delmarrey]

Sorry to hear you ran aground. You'll just have to spin'r around and motor off. Once your a float you'll be able to hoist the canvas again and see the world.

There's an ole saying I've lived by (in the old days before marriage).

"It is better to loose a lover, then to love a looser!"

Fair winds............................._/)

[Talbot]

I am sorry to be so late in expressing my sympathy.

However, at least you tried. Think how much worse it would have been if you had really fallen heavily for this guy and had not wised up to these minor character incompatabilities!!!!!

Please don't let this hiccup stop your search. He is out there somewhere.

[David_Old_Jersey]

Originally Posted by BubbleHeadMd

That's awesome. I just love being pigeon-holed because of my gender. Thanks very much.

For me it's more of an ambition

Anjou, win some, lose some .........but from what I hear The Gambia is a popular choice for some ladies In preparation might want to read up on what you can do in a dug out canoe

[Fishman_Tx]

Originally Posted by paradix

Reminds me of the single liveaboard sailor who sees his single liveaboard sailor buddy motoring his ancient 26 footer in to anchor one afternoon with a bright shiny new RIB tender in tow.
"Where'd you get that amazing new tender from, buddy?" the first sailor asks.
"Well I was just lazing on the beach after lunch, when this stunning young lady motors up in the RIB, parks it on the beach, comes up beside me, takes off all her clothes, and whispers in my ear: 'Take what you want!'"
"Good choice", replies the first sailor. "The clothes probably wouldn't have fit"...

Now THAT'S funny!

[Solitude]

Originally Posted by David_Old_Jersey

Anjou, win some, lose some .........but from what I hear The Gambia is a popular choice for some ladies In preparation might want to read up on what you can do in a dug out canoe

Yes. I used to work in Africa and was amazed at the number of ladies traveling for that reason. Its not just Gambia but all over.

[David_Old_Jersey]

Originally Posted by Solitude

Yes. I used to work in Africa and was amazed at the number of ladies traveling for that reason. Its not just Gambia but all over.

I hear it's a John Wayne thing. Big leggy

[anjou]

Gentlemen

Just for the record, .....im the first one to advise and berate others for generalising and taring all with the same brush, and now ive had a week to sleep, chill, collect my thoughts and compose myself, I know ive been naughty and foolish in blaming men in general. We are ALL human and ALL individual, and ALL havre a right to be who we are.

If there Are other crusties out there, its their perogative to be crusty, and if they were an endangered species, I would champion their cause and right to be so.

Next time, im going to get to know someone better before I cast off.

Meanwhile, I bought the Captain Ron dvd this week and spent a hillarious afternoon watching it and drooling over a gorgeous Leaky Teaky, the Carib and Kurt.

[bloodhunter]

Hey Anjou,
Don't back off. You're probably more right than wrong.
In any case without your generalization (American spelling) we wouldn't have had this great thread

[MarkJ]

Hi Anjou,

So sorry to read this thread! It must have been very difficult to write your post to us all.

There are still LOTS of guys out there. A friend of ours said she never dated a guy who didn't own a boat, now she's out here too

Your initial post about the boat work in the yard and the lack of communications was a couple of very important points.

I do implore people to look carefully at the condition and maintenance required on the particular type of boat they are getting into. Yes, a fancy old design, timber boat with big glass windows looking astern from a huge bed appears romantic on Yachtworld.com but can be really a dockyard nightmare compared to an all-plastic boat designed to not break down and have fewest maintenance days possible.

Men do need to realise that sitting in a marina or dockyard just doesn't cut it for the brochure shot of the cruising lifestyle that women thought they were getting into.

The girl who is currently asleep in the aft cabin bleats to billio as soon as we tie up to any wharf, but when we are in the cruising anchorages she is as happy as can be.

How does one work out if the person is a 'dockyard fixer' or an 'out in the anchorage' skinny-dipper? Read the log books? Close questioning?

Communications: We now each have our own laptop and the first thing we buy when we hit a new country is a USB modem broadband SIM card.

As for sitting at home waiting for the right man to come along, I would suggest you get off your butt, put your cash into your mouth and go have holidays where the cruisers get together in abundant numbers. Its like catching a fly with sticky paper if you are walking the promenade in Palma De Majorca in the season, or Gran Canaria before the ARC, Race Week in Antigua... OK just head to Antigua!


This point is about men: I know a few of them and have been one most of my life. I was single (in fact still not married) till I was 45, never had a woman for more than a few months. Maybe its taken me a bit longer than others to 'blossom', maybe most women are idiots and couldn't see any nice bits in me? Whatever. But there are huge heaps of single men out there waiting to be loved and who want to give away that special part of their heart. One thing that stops us being picked up by suitable women is the adage that all the good men are taken (in Australia all the women used to say all the single guys in Sydney are gay. Whaddabout me??). All the GOOD men are NOT taken. There are ports full of GREAT men with GREAT boats waiting to shove off into your combined dreams.

I'm sorry your heart was broken with this relationship, but please don't give up


Mark

[bobfnbw]

Originally Posted by anjou

Gentlemen



Next time, im going to get to know someone better before I cast off.

Meanwhile, I bought the Captain Ron dvd this week and spent a hillarious afternoon watching it and drooling over a gorgeous Leaky Teaky, the Carib and Kurt.

LOL.. anjou, I don't know you but I suspect you will do ok.
Anyone that can watch captain ron and laugh is ok with me...

But you hit it on the nail me thinks. Knowing the person before you set off is pretty important. Life is about learning, so don't beat yourself up if you find that you now are in that mode. It happens.

Bob

[Ocean Girl]

Wow Markj, that was most insightful and spot on post about meeting Mr Riight!!! Thanks for writing it.
Erika

PS your new nickname is "oh wise one"

[MarkJ]

Originally Posted by Ocean Girl

PS your new nickname is "oh wise one"

I wish the chic who owns me thought that!

[senormechanico]

Mark said it exactly right.

While in Mexico, I met a few cruising ladies who were not happy with their mates and the way they were being taken for granted.

You're a gem waiting to be discovered.