Private Messages:
Goto User
Control Panel For
Yourself then, > Edit Options, then > scroll down to 'Messaging & Notification':
4.Enable Private Messaging? Allows people to send Private Messages to you ~
yes/no
5. Send you an
email when you receive a Private Message? ~ yes/
no
6. Pop up a box when you receive a Private Message? This will pop up a small warning box when you receive a Private Message asking whether you want to view the message. ~
yes/no
I’ve been so bold as to embolden my recommended choices.