Dating Locals While Cruising

[KetoNomad]

I'm in the Caribbean for the first time ever (landlubbering unfortunately) and surrounded by beautiful black women whom I am particularly attracted to. I know I can't be the only guy here with that preference so I thought I'd ask what your opinions/experiences have been in dating local women while cruising. Seems unlikely to result in a long term first mate type situation but maybe (hopefully) I'm wrong about that

[zeehag]

on this side, some do--then they marry em then they(the males) run away. be nice. donot break hearts--some families pack a whollop..could get sticky.

[Suijin]

Just make sure they fully understand that you're going to be leaving at some point and you're not going to settle down with them whoever you are. It's all about being upfront about your plans and your intentions. I would also take the time to learn about the culture where you are and how dating and relationships are viewed in that culture. Don't make assumptions based on your own life experience, because the delta between that and theirs could lead to unexpected conflict from assumptions you both hold but never discussed openly.

[KetoNomad]

Originally Posted by zeehag

on this side, some do--then they marry em then they(the males) run away. be nice. donot break hearts--some families pack a whollop..could get sticky.

Ah Zee, I'd never do that. I always want to be able to see myself in the mirror and like what I see

I was thinking more about finding a long term companion to sail with.

[KetoNomad]

Originally Posted by Suijin

Just make sure they fully understand that you're going to be leaving at some point and you're not going to settle down with them whoever you are. It's all about being upfront about your plans and your intentions. I would also take the time to learn about the culture where you are and how dating and relationships are viewed in that culture. Don't make assumptions based on your own life experience, because the delta between that and theirs could lead to unexpected conflict from assumptions you both hold but never discussed openly.

I was thinking about long term. Short term is easy me being such a studly stud lol

[Suijin]

Originally Posted by KetoNomad

I was thinking about long term. Short term is easy me being such a studly stud lol

You're here asking for advice on long-term relationships? What do you want to know? lol

[KetoNomad]

Originally Posted by Suijin

You're here asking for advice on long-term relationships? What do you want to know? lol

Not so much looking for advice

[boatman61]

Long term could work if you plan on staying out there.. however I believe the US authorities frowns on its citizens getting hitched to foreigners..

[john61ct]

I hope that last is a joke?

[KetoNomad]

Originally Posted by boatman61

Long term could work if you plan on staying out there.. however I believe the US authorities frowns on its citizens getting hitched to foreigners..

Fortunately, I am Canadian I think the Canadian gov't is slightly less of a PITA in that regard.

[boatman61]

Originally Posted by KetoNomad

Fortunately, I am Canadian I think the Canadian gov't is slightly less of a PITA in that regard.

Sorted..

[JstaRebel]

Originally Posted by KetoNomad

Ah Zee, I'd never do that. I always want to be able to see myself in the mirror and like what I see

I was thinking more about finding a long term companion to sail with.

I'm so glad you wrote this.. It is very doable. I'm married to a wonderful little Dominicana and have been for the past 9 years. Be yourself, respectful of others, and you will be fine.. If you're ever in Anguilla or SXM, look me up..

[belizesailor]

Originally Posted by JstaRebel

I'm so glad you wrote this.. It is very doable. I'm married to a wonderful little Dominicana and have been for the past 9 years. Be yourself, respectful of others, and you will be fine.. If you're ever in Anguilla or SXM, look me up..

I think mutual cultural respect is the key. Ive seen a number of anglo foreigner males get involved with Caribbean/Latin women and develop what appear to be good healthy long term relationships/marriages.

Ive also seen things go very wrong in such "relationships" more often than not...I think a lot of what goes wrong is due to less than honorable intentions on either, or both, sides from the start.

One friend of mine married a local girl, built a house, adopted her kids...he was ecstatically happy...then the money ran out (financial planning was never his strong suit)...and she dropped him like a hot rock...he was crushed...very sad.

[weavis]

Originally Posted by KetoNomad

Fortunately, I am Canadian I think the Canadian gov't is slightly less of a PITA in that regard.

er.... no.

[KetoNomad]

Originally Posted by JstaRebel

I'm so glad you wrote this.. It is very doable. I'm married to a wonderful little Dominicana and have been for the past 9 years. Be yourself, respectful of others, and you will be fine.. If you're ever in Anguilla or SXM, look me up..

I'm in Marigot as I type this, lol.