Hi everybody i have a difficult topic to discuss which is related to women going to sea and quite personal. My wife is a good sailor, even started 30 years ago with a Laser. We sailed ever since with several boats but mainly small ones up to 25 feet in the baltic
Sea / Denmark
. We used our 4 wd jeep and spent our honeymoon in the sahara desert in Algeria, went white water
rafting etc etc. so we did some real adventours
Now i bought a wonderful safe 44 feet aluminium cutter
a real offshore
sailer and we spent 4 weeks in Sweden
with good weather
. Ok 3 nights quite rough at anchor
with force 8. We only day sailed max 9 hours. My( i thought our) dream was to go for 2 years trip next year down to the Med and mayb caribean later.
Now my wife clearly expressed her serious concern to sail longer trips again....... weekend or 3 weeks summer in Denmark
where we know each corner are ok BUT she can not stand the stress approaching any new island or harbour, watching the depthmeter and checking our position at the chart. She dont need nights at anchor
waiting for a wind
shift or being afraid about a windshift. She dont need sailing in unprotected waters allways imagine what might happen next.
I have to agree that sailing in new territories involves some stress and i also hate nights when i can not sleep but i think men
can forget such situation easily and the next morning verything is fine whereas my wife thinking about such hours the next week. We have anchored more then 20 night and she loves a quite and calm nicht at anchor, there is no fear about water
or sailing BUT always fear that we run agound, that the engine
quits or whatsoever.
I think and she confimred that not being in control about the situation esp. the weather
and waves and water depth
etc is her biggest concern.
It is a little bit difficult now..
Any similar experinece or advice how to overcome. I dont want to skip my dream after 4 weeks sailing but ofcourse if i can not change it i have to and buy a condo or mobilhome or something.