I am Mark's fiance' (from earlier replies to your post) and I just wanted to send a big hug!
I understand how you are feeling, Mark has always been a passionate sailor and has always wanted to go cruising on his own boat, which we are just about to do.
It has always been his dream, but in the last year or so it has become my dream also, our dream - together. But it has taken me some time to get used of the idea and the new life we are about to begin.
I understand how difficult it is to tell everyone you are packing up your life on land and going sailing. We have recently had to do all of that. To sell & give away our belongings/our life and try to explain to people that we weren't coming back in a years time, that we were infact going to be cruising for the rest of our lives.
Everyone still keeps saying "oh so when you come back" etc, as though we are just going off to have a sail for a few months and get it our of our system and then going home to be grown ups again with a 'normal' life just like everyone else. My friends even said things like 'Oh don't get rid of that, I can just mind it for you so that when you come back soon you can have it back". And I was always saying "But we won't be coming back for a long time, our boat will be our home and sailing with be our life".
It just takes people a little time to get used of the idea. It is not everyday that you have a friend that says "Hey, we are packing up our whole life and going to sail away on a boat and travel the world". It wasa huge shock for our family
and friends, even though Mark has sailed all of his life.
We are able to do something that most people can only dream of, and sadly some people would never be able to go sailing because they have a fear of water
, storms and all sorts of things that would hold them back from living the most wonderful life.
I think alot of people have a fear of sailing because they are not really sure what it is or have not actually done it themselves, they are just thinking of the scary stories they have heard, or the scary movies they have seen where everything goes wrong. Most of our friends had to warn us about all the pirates and sharks and huge rouge waves that we would (may) encounter, they were more scared of the apparent dangers than we are.
Of course we will be careful and sail safely, but there are so many more wonderful and happy things to enjoy with sailing that all of the 'scary' fearful things.
I think we need to understand that our friends and family just love us and they may feel that to be happy one needs to live in the same area, have a good job, money
and a house full of lovely things - to have a stable and secure life. So when we say that we are going to get rid of all of those things and live on a boat and travel all over the world living each day as it comes and not having any routine or plans, rather just relaxing........it may seem to some people in our lives that we are doing this outrageous/crazy thing, when to us it is perfectly normal. They will understand in time when they see how happy and peaceful we are living the cruising life.
I also think our friends and family really miss us when we go cruising, so it may be easy for them to say "why do you want to go and do that?", or for them to say things that try to stop us from living our dreams. It is easy for us to say "See ya, we are off to travel the world and relax on beautiful islands etc". But we are leaving our loved ones behind and although we can see them from time to time or send a postcard, it must be hard for them to see us go for long periods of time/or for good.
We only have one life to live and I think it is wonderful that you are going to go cruising. You will have an amazing time. Think of all of the wonderful countries you will visit, all the lovely people you will meet, and all the cute animals
you can cuddle!
The biggest thing I have found since we left Australia
is that once you leave your old life as you know it, you never look back. The new world that you can be apart of is so wonderful, so rewarding and so beautiful! And at the end of the day when you are at sea on your lovely boat looking at dolphins
, you won't even remember all of those comments or the way your friends reacted at the time, it just won't matter.
You will still have your friends and memories from your old life and in time the people that matter will enjoy your new life with you. You will also find that you will very soon have a new group of wonderful cruising friends too that will support your love of sailing and understand the things you go through in your life aboard. This fourum is a wonderful place to make new friends, it is full of lovely people who love sailing. It is so inspiring.
My best advice for you (for the present time) is to keep your focus on the dream, everyday think about what you can do to make your sailing dream possible, what you can do to prepare for your new sailing life. That will keep you happy and inspired.
And you don't need their approval or permission to go sailing, it is your life and you deserve to be happy! And if they still think your crazy, you should tell them about the 25 year old Australian girl who just retired this year and is about to go cruising for the rest of her life! She has also only just learn't how to sail too. Now you sound completely sain compared to me.......lol.....
All the very best with your sailing life, may it bring you years of happiness, adventure, sunshine, joy and laughter!
I hope that I can have you over for a cup of tea on my boat oneday! We will have lots of wonderful stories to share.
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