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Old 22-12-2012, 22:22   #1
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When To Go Gray ...

I just spent the last week with my two aunts (70 & 72, both brunette) and the question came up about when would you go gray. Both said never. I am a natural blond, at 24 I found my first gray (really white) hair. Unfortunately for me, it was concentrated where my hair naturally parts -- so (at 57) II have been coloring my hair for a long time (but matching it to my natural color).

As a blond, it is not a big stretch to gray/white (in the earliest memories of my father he had white hair). I am ready to let it go, but my husband (bald and gray) says no.

So ... , have you, when did you, how did you deal with a husband/significant other that (may) have had a different opinion?
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The crazy thing is that on the inside I still feel 27!
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Old 22-12-2012, 22:34   #2
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Re: When To Go Gray ...

Who cares, it is a hair colour and the process is totally natural and part of life.
Oh to be fortunate enough to be worrying about first world problems like vanity.

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Who cares, it is a hair colour and the process is totally natural and part of life.
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Re: When To Go Gray ...

My lady is 53 and coloured her hair when i first met her three years ago, and had it long because her ex liked it like that. I told her to have it how she wanted it, so she stopped the blonding, cut it short and shaggy, and it now is streaked with grey and looks terrific.

I am totally white now with a full beard, she tells me that when i purse my lips it looks like a polar bear's bum.

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I just spent the last week with my two aunts (70 & 72, both brunette) and the question came up about when would you go gray. Both said never. I am a natural blond, at 24 I found my first gray (really white) hair. Unfortunately for me, it was concentrated where my hair naturally parts -- so (at 57) II have been coloring my hair for a long time (but matching it to my natural color).

As a blond, it is not a big stretch to gray/white (in the earliest memories of my father he had white hair). I am ready to let it go, but my husband (bald and gray) says no.

So ... , have you, when did you, how did you deal with a husband/significant other that (may) have had a different opinion?
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The crazy thing is that on the inside I still feel 27!
You still feel 27 because the mind goes. Lol

I am 56, and I no longer purchase new movies. In a few weeks, they are new again.
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Oh to be fortunate enough to be worrying about first world problems like vanity.
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Cat, do you mean as opposed to other FWPs like "Do I need a genset?"

Apart from Rebel with his resident rat, I don't see too many people posing TWP questions on CF LOL.
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I started going grey at 18 - it runs in the family. I dyed my hair from about 30 onwards. I am 54 years old.
Four years ago we took 6 months long service leave from work (another great reason to live in Australia) to take our trailerable yacht to the Whitsundays and the Great Barrier Reef. This was a great opportunity to re-evaluate the important things in my life, and spending a couple of hours every 6 weeks at the hairdressers (and $100) didn't seem that important. It turns out that my hair is a delightful shade of white, and I often get compliments on it. My partner Ian loves it. I stopped wearing makeup too!
My future is going to be water based and hopefully not too close to civilization, so I am celebrating the natural look - except for the facial and underarm hair!
Life is good with grey hair.
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My wife has colored her hair for many years. She has always been a good looking girl. Since moving aboard, taking navigation classes, learning about the cruising life and sailing sailing sailing, she has developed a salty swagger that comes with confidence. She no longer colors her hair. She looks terrific ! Big city advertisers and media are always trying to tell us what we should thing and how we should look. True beauty does not come out of a bottle.
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Re: When To Go Gray ...

What can be better than a natural looking lady in nature's surroundings? Kudos to all of you and your partners.

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Am I the only one cruising to still be colouring my hair? We have been cruising full time for over five years now, but I still dye my hair once an month and it is certainly not due to lack of self assurance LOL. I think when I have a head full of white/grey I may stop, but at the moment I hate looking in the bathroom mirror and seeing scrappy grey along the edges.

No time or money is wasted at the hairdressers though. I first pulled my scissors out to give myself a haircut a few months before we left Australia so I could make a run for my hairdresser in case it all went horribly wrong LOL. Over the next few weeks no one rolled around on the floor laughing looking at me, so I have not been near a hairdresser since, even when I returned home for a family wedding.

Although I haven't been near a hairdryer or curling wand for years now either, other routines will probably be continued for life - maintaining silky smooth legs, giving myself pedicures etc. Same goes for using French perfume and knickers. They all make me feel good so why stop because I am cruising? It would be a bit like giving up chocolate and good wine .

So Smart Move, do whatever makes you happy .

Giving a wedding reading with self coloured and self cut hair, three years after commencing cruising (to my credit I did manage to find something other than crocs and shorts to wear though ):
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Read the ingredients in that stuff. It comes with application gloves, not just for keeping the die off your hands. Read the warnings on the box. Letting that stuff soak into your head, and then wondering where dementia disorders in later years come from. Big pharma making caustic chemical baths for the top of my head? Pass. My wife quit using the stuff years ago. It causes more grey, so you keep using the product.

Guy goes to doctor complaining of pain in hand. Doctor prescribes two pills. Pain goes away for a week. Pain comes back. Trip to doctor again. Doctor now asks what has changed? Man says he hits his hand with a hammer for fun and amusement when he gets board, so when the pain stoped, he got a bigger hammer. Doctor pauses a moment and gives the man a prescription for three stronger pills.

This ain't no joke, this is how we approach life in the year 2012. In 2013, we don't look to be any smarter. More pills, more poisons soaking into our heads should do it.
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Nice pic lassie. Hell color it or don't. Whatever turns you on. I don't color my hair which used to be salt and pepper, but over the years the pepper seems to have gotten lost

Why is it that grey hair is seen to attractive ( as a sign of maturity and wisdom) in men yet on women it is generally considered to be a sign of ageing?




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Am I the only one cruising to still be colouring my hair? We have been cruising full time for over five years now, but I still dye my hair once an month and it is certainly not due to lack of self assurance LOL. I think when I have a head full of white/grey I may stop, but at the moment I hate looking in the bathroom mirror and seeing scrappy grey along the edges.

No time or money is wasted at the hairdressers though. I first pulled my scissors out to give myself a haircut a few months before we left Australia so I could make a run for my hairdresser in case it all went horribly wrong LOL. Over the next few weeks no one rolled around on the floor laughing looking at me, so I have not been near a hairdresser since, even when I returned home for a family wedding.

Although I haven't been near a hairdryer or curling wand for years now either, other routines will probably be continued for life - maintaining silky smooth legs, giving myself pedicures etc. Same goes for using French perfume and knickers. They all make me feel good so why stop because I am cruising? It would be a bit like giving up chocolate and good wine .

So Smart Move, do whatever makes you happy .

Giving a wedding reading with self coloured and self cut hair, three years after commencing cruising (to my credit I did manage to find something other than crocs and shorts to wear though ):
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Why is it that grey hair is seen to attractive ( as a sign of maturity and wisdom) in men yet on women it is generally considered to be a sign of ageing?
Genes flourish in the genepool which increase the probability of the carrier organism (that's us) successfully reproducing and helping the offspring survive long enough to reproduce. Genes which reduce the probability of either successful reproduction or the survival of the offspring are consequently rare in any genepool. Genes which program men to select young females survive and propagate in the gene pool because young females are (or were in pre-medical societies) more likely to produce healthy offspring. Genes which program women to select older males survive and propagate in the gene pool because older men are (or were in pre-abundance societies) better able to provide for the nutritional and other survival needs of the offspring.

The nice thing about understanding evolution is that we can hijack these machines (us) which our genes built to propagate themselves and use them for our own interests rather than those for which our genes built us.

So, my opinion is do what you want with your own hair and don't worry about what society thinks.
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Why is it that grey hair is seen to attractive ( as a sign of maturity and wisdom) in men yet on women it is generally considered to be a sign of ageing?
No idea, but its certainly true!

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Genes flourish in the genepool which increase the probability of the carrier organism (that's us) successfully reproducing and helping the offspring survive long enough to reproduce. Genes which reduce the probability of either successful reproduction or the survival of the offspring are consequently rare in any genepool. Genes which program men to select young females survive and propagate in the gene pool because young females are (or were in pre-medical societies) more likely to produce healthy offspring. Genes which program women to select older males survive and propagate in the gene pool because older men are (or were in pre-abundance societies) better able to provide for the nutritional and other survival needs of the offspring.
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Not sure its as simple as that. A few centuries/millenia ago most men did not survive long enough to get grey hair and I doubt women would have deliberately selected older mates instead of those in their prime (with good hunting and fighting capacity) if they were naturally seeking a mate to ensure optimum survival of their offspring.

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......So, my opinion is do what you want with your own hair and don't worry about what society thinks.
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Why is it that grey hair is seen to attractive ( as a sign of maturity and wisdom) in men yet on women it is generally considered to be a sign of ageing?
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Let the facts speak for themselves
Maturity and wisdom is attractive in any person while ageing isn't.
Men get one, women get the other as their hair greys
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