By the way I find the girls are very quiet on this subject especialy as it concerns them. Come on girls please
I will chime in. First, I want to say great post and great topic. Second, I like to think that my husband and I subscribe to the philosophy that you outline, but I feel like I should print out your post and keep in handy for re-reading when I feel like we aren't quite living up to it. Remember it's the journey that's important not the point of destination
Any talk of relationship on a sailing board ultimately gets intertwined with the discussion of cruising/the dream and who's dream is it anyway?
As a woman sailor and one who is not following his dream, I find, that although I may represent few women out there (I think there are more of us than you think) that I have actually constructed my own dream and yes it includes cruising. I think the general concensus ends up being that if women go cruising, it's only because she is following his dream or he did a great job convincing her. Is it unreasonable to consider that the dream may in fact originate with the woman and how wonderful that the man agrees. I know that you will probably give me all kinds of numbers to suggest that in the vast majority of cases the dream originates with the man and you would probably be right, however I am just asking that you consider the possibility of this not always being the case.
My husband and I take sailing classes
together, navigation classes
maintainence classes together, sail together, charter
together, work on the boat together, decide on upgrades and enhancements together, shop at West Marine
together. For us eventual liveaboard
and cruising are simply a natural extension of what we already do.
Communication is an art and one that must be practiced everyday, just like I practice my navigational skills and my sail trim.