Not even women know what women want. So we've got no chance.
Our best shot is the fact that they're quick to tell us what they DON'T want, unfortunately usually with hindsight
They don't want to be patronised.... well, they actually do, but it mustn't look patronising. It's ok to both know what is going on, but for heaven's sake dress it up as chivalry so you can both have a bit of fun with it... win/win
The women equivalent of cruising guys... (I was going to say REAL cruising women, but that would be a long drop with a short rope
from the yardarm, from all the female partners of cruising couples...) ie. those who are the driving force, solo or couples, seem to always sail monos. I'm sure there are exceptions but I've never seen any.
It seems that the women who prefer multihulls are possibly the ones who sail, motivated by their husbands' dream. At least initially. There is nothing wrong with that at all. Many of them really love the life but would never have got there on a mono.
Personally, I've had and would be happy with either. My partner hasn't sailed much but she's loved the bit we've done together. Even before I showed her the mono vs multi we'd get for the budget
, she'd favoured mono.
I'd never have picked the reason in a 100 years.... cats don't feel like real homes, they feel like caravans (you might call them trailers). I raised the questions of level sailing, speed, space etc. She likes the solid feel of a heavy displacement
cruiser, with loads of timber (she likes varnishing
For my sins, which must be many, I love the romance and style of Garden and Perry Formosa/Vagabond, CT54/Valiant, and so does she.
So, we'll get the romance of the sea out of our systems with a leaky teaky most likely, and then eventually, probably when we're old, and when her fingers are raw and she can't stand the foul language floating up from the bilges any longer, with deep concern and a flurry of gallantry, I'll sell the restored beauty and slip a couple of plastic hulls under her and find a way to tell her it's not the equivalent of a retirement
But I wouldn't dream of suggesting I know what she wants, just try to navigate through the ever changing conditions