Not Sure, I don't need your advice re: my relationship; indeed, considering your attitude, it doesn't surprise me that your experiences with women have been so negative. As to my boat being a house on pontoons with sails
- not so.
She was built to Lloyd's 100 A1 unlimited offshore
specs and was sailed by the original owner across the Atlantic, later down as far as Venezuela
and back up to Canada
. She is a one of a fairly rare breed with a deserved reputation as safe cruising boats and, she was not only built, but designed to that end: eg., tempered glass fixed portlightls, a cutter
rig with a dedicated furling
, 10 stays, etc., etc.
While not fast, she does an honest 7 to 8.5 knots in winds of 15 - 20 knots (and I could gain a half knot
by replacing the fixed props with folding ones). Frankly, in my experience it is at least comparable to 39 and 1/2 foot monohulls that are much less comodious, but nevertheless equipped and loaded for comfortable extended cruising
. She will not broach in reaching conditions and she can can sail for days on end with a pole-less symmetrical spinnaker
at speeds that fully-loaded monohulls will rarely achieve - and do so without wallowing.
Have I compromised for my fiance? Not to any great extent - as I indicated, at age 55 I really don't enjoy bashing to windward for long periods at an extreme heel; I don't enjoy preparing meals
, or even taking stores out of cupboards at an angle; I don't enjoy climbing a steep companionway
ladder on a heeling boat while trying to carry tools, drinks or food
items; I don't enjoy servicing a diesel
in cramped quarters.
My plans are for largely trade-wind sailing and for that, she works very well indeed. When I do need to go to windward in heavy conditions, I typically bear off to about 60 degrees and maintain speeds of about 7.5 knots with comfort (at that angle to the waves, the shadow from the windward hull
reduces pounding dramatically). And yes, in light air (below 10 knots) I'll even motor
sail at about 40 degrees.
She is decidedly not a racing
boat; the performance to windward does leave something to be desired (and hence my wish for a larger cat with boards), but all boats are compromises. She may not hit the nail on the head
, but for the price
and my current
needs she has come very close.
In any event, my point was that the features in a boat that my
fiance appreciates are also ones that I am not only able to live with, but have come to enjoy at this point in my life. And to the extent that I have had to compromise in order to get her to not only spend, but to enjoy spending considerable time aboard, she has compromised by throwing herself with a passion into not only a new activity, but a new life. While it may be contrary to your experience/beliefs, I believe that in a good relationship some compromise is not only necessary, it is healthy. I get pleasure out of pleasuring her, and she gets pleasure out of pleasuring me - and for us, that is a state that applies to far more than just 'physical' pleasures.