Originally Posted by Not Sure
Unfortunately, it's not going to happen. I'm assuming that you've either A) never heard, or B) don't believe .....in the phrase "familiarity breeds contempt"? It may take 6 months or 20 years, but it _will_take, eventually...
Familiarity only breeds contempt, in the intelligent, when one becomes familiar with the contemptuous.
The intelligent are often able to choose mates that are more admirable than contemptuous; whereupon increasing familiarity (discovery) breeds respect, appreciation, and affection. Maggie & I were so fortunately "gifted".
On the other hand, the unwise make often make unwise decisions, which (like fish) tend not to improve with age.
Maggie and I have been married 41
years, of which 10 were spent living in very close proximity (mostly 24 hrs/day) aboard a C&C
29. Recognizing each others (few) faults, and our many differences; I can honestly state that there has never been any contempt in our relationship (perhaps a little occasional annoyance, anger, dismay, & disappointment).
Expecting a spouse to remain the same, and to (continue) enjoy doing what you enjoy, seems (to me) a rather naive & juvenile point of view.
This saying has its origins in one of Aesop’s fables - The Fox and the Lion:
“When first the Fox saw the Lion he was terribly frightened, and ran away and hid himself in the wood. Next time however he came near the King of Beasts he stopped at a safe distance and watched him pass by. The third time they came near one another the Fox went straight up to the Lion and passed the time of day with him, asking him how his family
were, and when he should have the pleasure of seeing him again; then turning his tail, he parted from the Lion without much ceremony.
"Familiarity Breeds Contempt"
I like Mark Twain’s corollary, better: “Familiarity breeds contempt - and children