I think the advice from the women on your post is pretty accurate. No matter how you slice that apple, sir, it gonna cost you some jing that you may or may not be willing to part with.
Don't know your finances...but you do. You have a rough road if you don't do this properly...at best. If you get stingy here and don't steer a proper course with her she could be lost overboard
before you know it. Taking her onto a comfortable livable boat would be a smart move. If she is prone to seasickness that little teacup of yours would kill her ambitions in about 2 hours in a swell. Cats, trimarans, good mono boats without excessive movement with nice hot shower
, decent kitchen, clean and comfortable bed
in the Exumas
with that pale blue water
...she might get bit with the bug.
The other choice, as mentioned already, is marriage is a compromise and you might be doing your thing alone. Nothing wrong with that 3-4 months a year. She would just fly into Bahamas
and spend a couple of weeks or a month harbor hopping and that would be acceptable to many a wife who was not gaff hooked through the gills for the liveaboard
You know her better than anyone on this planet. Sit down and have a long conversation, open...honest...bare the soul...type of talk about what you need and what she needs...and see where you can find an interface with each other. Look, you both worked your whole lives to get to this point of retirement
. Neither one of you should be miserable and feeling cheated or blocked from something you wanted for many a year. That would just be ridiculous to put that on someone else. It is the way I would absolutely approach it with her. You might have to do a quid pro quo with her and nothing wrong with that. Where it gets goofed up and sand is thrown in the cogs is when someone digs their heels in and refuses to allow any movement of ideas, or fairness, or just the trust you two have put into the bank over many years suddenly go tits up. I think if you approach it like this ...at least with the way I am wired...it is sane, fair, and healthy approach to this issue. Wadya think?