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Old 12-07-2009, 14:28   #1
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Need to Sell Admiral on Cruising Lifestyle

Been working the Admiral, trying to get her excited about the prospects of a cruising life... so far have only got her to agree to "let's just go for a couple of months in the summer"... not good enough for me...

My next move is to introduce her and the 2 Kids to sailing and I need it to be perfect. She wants to see Turkey so next year our vacation will be to Istanbul in April, May or June, but will include a cruise on a 40-50' CAT. I will get a captain who knows the local waters and can make sure we she has a great experience...

Here is my fear. With only a week charter, she may be sea sick for the first 3 days... so do you think I should not try this without at least a 2 week tour of duty... or take a chance on 1 good week... If she has a really bad experience the chances of her going with me are slim to nil... which may mean I will have to sit on the couch or get a new crew ...

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Being seasick is quite overblown. I have seen people make themselves seasick because they were certain that is what was going to happen to them. Bring some Bonine just in case she does. A good charter captain will inform everyone ahead of time on how to avoid becoming seasick.

As far as convincing her to accept the cruising lifestyle, don't push her too hard. People have a way of pushing back when they feel they are being pushed excessively. Expose her to boats very slowly and let her decide for herself if she likes it. Exposing her to one week on a catamaran might be a little excessive for a first time exposure to sailing. A 2 hour daysail on a nice day in a calm harbor might be more appropriate.
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Wow..that absolutely perfect. Perfect!
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A 2 hour daysail on a nice day in a calm harbor might be more appropriate.
David,

You make a really good point... Last year we went out of Pensicola Fla for a Sunset Cruise, it was nice, but I think she was somewhat bored as we really didn't have any wind and basically just idled out in the harbor watched the sunset and idled back... It was a nice experience, but not very exciting. So I think she is ready for a bit more of an adventure, especially if it included some cool little ports of call... Perhaps I will see we can find someone with a really nice CAT who could take us out for a day around Miami or Ft. Lauderdale perhaps stopping at the Bayside shops or something she might like...

Thanks for the advice... Cheers
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Old 12-07-2009, 18:43   #7
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When we were building our yacht, I used to take my wife out for a romantic weekend every so often. We would hire a motor cruiser and stay in enclosed waters. Thirty years later she still sails with me. One of my friends introduced his wife to sailing in a fresh breeze at sea. She never sails with him. Regards, Richard.
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Old 12-07-2009, 19:20   #8
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When I suggested to the admiral that it was time to consider a cruising time line she squinted a bit... looked at the boat and announced "it's too small".

"Too small"? I said, unwittingly

"Yes", she replied... "when you buy one big enough to have a stall for my horse, we'll talk about it."

So........ here I am....still dreaming..
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Can I come with you to Turkey and then I will talk her into the cruising lifestyle?

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If she really really loves you she will sail around the world with you for ever! Othrwise be nice and compromise
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You could always fire up a bit of the mean green, and that will take away the problem of seasick and perhaps make her more receptive to the idea of cruising, be sure and bring some Jimmy Buffet CDs to enhance the experience.
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I dont think its possible to " convince" a person to go cruising, it has to be their dream as well as yours. A one week charter is probably too much too soon. It takes a long time, and you need to get to a stage where your partner says " lets go out for a week or two sailing" and take it from there. If you push it at all, its always your dream and not theirs. THere are untold number of boats sitting forlorn in Turkey, Rio dulce etc belonging to people whose partner went along and decided it was not their dream.
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Make it HER week..make the yacht as comfortable and pretty as possible.

Have Ginger-O's on board and ginger pills , for sea sickness.

Lavish her with your loving attention.

Let her see how excited you are, don't hold back...excitement is contagious.

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I'm glad my captain never gave up his dream, as it is my dream now too.
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Take the little darling up the Seine to do some shopping, than maybe the Thames to catch some shows.
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