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Old 13-07-2009, 11:02   #16
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You could always fire up a bit of the mean green, and that will take away the problem of seasick and perhaps make her more receptive to the idea of cruising, be sure and bring some Jimmy Buffet CDs to enhance the experience.

Of course, the Green's easy for you up in AK, but it's still a bit difficult down here in TX. Of course tho I DO agree with your assesment of it's...<ahem>....proclivities....
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Old 13-07-2009, 11:09   #17
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perhaps an open forum is not the place for " green" suggestions?

just sayin', what with coasties being able to impound yer boat
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Old 13-07-2009, 11:11   #18
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exactly!
It's still not legal in TX, unlike the lucky buggers in AK...
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Old 13-07-2009, 12:36   #19
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exactly!
It's still not legal in TX, unlike the lucky buggers in AK...
Don't fool yourself.

It's not REALLY legal up there either.


Federalism? What's that?
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Does she get ill in the car when reading? If she does you can use your car as the testing ground to what works for seas sickness......BEST WISHES in getting her to board your dream....been there, and done that!......i2f
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When we were building our yacht, I used to take my wife out for a romantic weekend every so often. We would hire a motor cruiser and stay in enclosed waters. Thirty years later she still sails with me. One of my friends introduced his wife to sailing in a fresh breeze at sea. She never sails with him. Regards, Richard.

My God, who doesn't have this problem? I have been dragging my wife on sailing vacations for the last 10 years. And she is not that kind of person who just goes along to get along -- she's a VERY strong personality. A couple of years ago we were in the Grenadines in the rainy season. We sailed out of St. Vincent across the Bequia Channel in a vicious wind against tide situation, 35 knots of wind and huge square waves. I was scared sh*tless with white knuckles at the helm, but she was in her bikini on the after deck. She said: "Now I finally understand why you like this!"

So women are different.

I'm still doing my best to find a way to please her on boats.
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I agree that getting the Admiral to come around is best accomplished by a pleasant experience. On the other hand, Admirals vary on their ability to accept the not so pleasant aspects of cruising. Don't forget that you have an Admiral but more often then not you'll need a damn good first mate.
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I agree that getting the Admiral to come around is best accomplished by a pleasant experience ...
All of us will be better adapted to accept adversity, when such is the exception, rather than the norm. Initial pleasant experiences train us in what to expect as the norm, allowing us to believe that subsequent “less-pleasant” experiences may be the exception.
As our mothers told us, make a good first impression - they last.
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Can I come with you to Turkey and then I will talk her into the cruising lifestyle?

If you and the Schooner know the waters around Gocek or Orhanive we should talk, I like the way you think !!

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Thats all for the great advice.. will keep you posted on the progress... I do think there are a couple of steps I need to take before a full blown week on the water... so this fall I will arrange for a some fun around Miami, maybe an overnight within view of the sky line... with just a bit of open water sailing (I need to get something out of the deal)...

Thanks again... great group of folks here..

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Oops... meant to say "Thanks for all the great advice"... please do post any other thoughts...

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Wind and Anchorages...

My limited experience so far with trying to persuade a reluctant Admiral to come cruising is that it is essential to :-
1) Avoid wind (and the accompanying waves).
2) Always find a good anchorage.
3) Install a good barbecue.
4) Have a good dinghy and outboard.
5) Keep all mess out of the galley.
6) Never yell. No recriminations. Lots of sympathy.
7) Don't push her into situations that she does not like.
7) Include her in all decisions, allowing veto if she really does not like something.

My experience so far is that limited exposure to unpleasant situations is acceptable, and that she is becomming better at reading the weather and choosing good anchorages than me.
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here's the situation on our boat

My wife prefers the destination; drop the hook and she's suddenly in heaven. I prefer the journey; raise the sails and I'm having maximum fun.

For us as a couple, the perfect cruise is a bunch of short hops, maybe three to four hours of sailing between one anchorage and the next, with a lay day on the hook every time we find a really good anchorage.

For every time we throw in a multi-day passage, we try to compensate with a week-long stay in a great anchorage.

Even there, you have to work to understand what makes the other partner tick. For me, a "great anchorage" is mostly about the diving. For her, a "great anchorage" has easy beach access so that she can get a workout jogging in the sand.

She has to understand that every once in a while what I really want is solitude. I have to understand that every once in a while what she really wants is shopping.

We make it work.
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Oops... meant to say "Thanks for all the great advice"... please do post any other thoughts... cheers
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