Originally Posted by Rakuflames
Oh it's a guy thing. You'd know if you were a woman and saw it happen 95% of the time by a guy. You have misunderstood what my friend (I really do like him as a person) did: he retied the boat just to retie the boat. There was no need to, and he did it badly, and left my boat in danger
during a bad storm. The marina manager (a woman, by the way) had to climb onto my boat and retie it.
I wish it WAS about individuals, but this is something that often happens to women. Probably you would not do it, but I bet you have friends who would.
I have worked hard to not have a chip on my shoulder about this...I have a funny
story about a coach of mine in college screaming 'get a man on that winch' when I couldn't seem to raise a halyard
on the 50 footer I was racing
just wasn't working...I had sailed many hours with this individual...between brute strength and adrenaline I stripped every gear
in that winch
because it needed grease and wasn't working internally but I gave it my all...I am wearing that story out.
I got to see that 'individual' after twenty years last month and I fondly remembered that day...and he taught me a lot. He is an excellent sailor...but man, he pissed me off that day...my crew members just laughed at the dock that day when we took the winch apart and the internal parts
crumbled into dust when we opened it...
Last month, I also got to sail with one of my crew members from my college era who urged me to back the racing
boat we were taking out - out of the slip - I had never steered it - and while it was small I was still a bit intimidated...he said come on you can do it...
So I try never to generalize...for those men
who have generalized that women cannot be commanding on the sea...well they are just one woman away from being proven wrong...
Now that I am 41 years old I have turned into a nambie pambie and have to brush up on my skills to feel confident again, but I can tell you that in addition to just wanting to be proficient and safe on the water
, one of my priorities is converting as many male naysayers who have generalized that all women are not sea worthy....