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Old 04-10-2010, 04:48   #61
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Got married Jan 4th 2001 in Kerala, in a beautiful temple near the sea.
Now the British Embassy won't recognise our marriage. HA. And in the UK you're screwed if you live with a partner for just a few months - so what's that about???!

Anyway, thinking of getting married again on our tenth wedding anniversary... Gotta be the same date, it's hard enough remembering one anniversary!
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Old 04-10-2010, 07:19   #62
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If you can show that you complied with the marriage laws in the country in which you married the British have to recognize the marriage. The question is did you?

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Old 04-10-2010, 07:35   #63
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Got married Jan 4th 2001 in Kerala, in a beautiful temple near the sea.
Now the British Embassy won't recognise our marriage. . . .
Getting married in a foreign country is more than just saying I do in a temple. As Tom and Maje stated you need to comply with all the regulations and procedures of the civil authorities of that country.
-And- then you must get that government's marriage certificate/registration "Apostilled" before any other government will recognize the document. This is common practice all around the world.
- - Anybody can generate on their computer a "marriage certificate" and then claim they are married. When dealing with the "civil law" you need to comply with accepted international standards of document verification.
- - Even in the USA you can get "married" in a religious/ethnic ceremony, but it has no "civil" validity until you comply with governmental rules and register the marriage with the government. Only then do you have civil law protections, if any, for the marriage.
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Single (at last) after 31 years and contemplating the future - which will include as many years sailing as I can achieve. initial parts of the plan completed:

1. Divorce achieved.
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2. Approx date set.


By the way, for all those struggling with reducing stuff to move aboard. Divorce is a brutal but very effective method (certainly worked on my bank account).

The prospect of a like minded companion to share the highs and lows is something I have little experience off, but would very much welcome.
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Old 04-10-2010, 09:15   #66
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-And- then you must get that government's marriage certificate/registration "Apostilled" before any other government will recognize the document. This is common practice all around the world.
That'll be what we missed, then... SO it just seems easier to get married again than go temple chasing in Kerala....
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That'll be what we missed, then... SO it just seems easier to get married again than go temple chasing in Kerala....
That would seem to be the simple and easy way to solve the problem - NOT!

- - In order to get legally married most countries require you to prove you are not already married and also to prove that all previous marriages were legally terminated. If you do not or can not, then you are entering into a new fraudulent marriage with all the hassles, pitfalls, and consequences involving insurance, medical, wills, banking, employment, and many other complications.
- - If the marriage in Kerala was registered with the government and a document of marriage signed/issued, then you need to track down that document or government agency and get official certified copies of the marriage registry and have the Kerala government's Foreign Ministry "Apostille" (a certificate) the marriage document. You can Google "Apostille" to get examples of what the Apostille certificate looks like. I have even prepared them myself and sent them to the government ministry for signature and stamping as the officials were "clueless" about the process.
- - However, if the marriage in Kerala was not registered with the government and a marriage registry or certificate was not issued - then you are not "legally" married and "living in sin" which is more fun anyway. So the next "re-" marriage is actually the first/original marriage since there are no legal records of the "temple ceremony."

- - And the same applies to any married cruisers who get divorces in a country other than the marriage/home country - you need to get the divorce documents/certificate "Apostilled." Or the divorce will probably not be recognized back in the home/marriage country and your "ex" can play havoc with your assets if not also your ass.
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Engaged. We're taking off on the cruise in November. We're planning to get married next year (probably December). Assuming the engagement survives.

I didn't want to get married before cruising, because I'd hate to get divorced after only 2 months. But if we survive the trip, we'll be able to survive anything!
Thats the ticket! If I ever remarry; I'm going to insist on an extended cruise/passage BEFORE the wedding, not on the honeymoon. Plus she will have to personnaly dive to a reef to receive the engagement ring.
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