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Old 13-01-2011, 06:42   #136
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Yes. This is also an interesting take: I can see many more long term (committed or not) relationships among the long term cruisers that newly weds. Probably people of either sex who cannot keep their comittments simply drop out from this sport.

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Old 13-01-2011, 11:58   #137
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Probably not a good assumption on this forum.

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Old 13-01-2011, 12:27   #138
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The way I see it is
Men seeking a sailing companion face two problems

1 Finding a compatable woman for a relationship

2 finding a woman whos prepared to live the lifestyle.

For a woman seeking the same, in many ways its harder but for some, once they realise there is no Prince Charming coming to rescue them, they go it alone and the sense of independence is so empowering, why would they then go and spoil it?
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Old 13-01-2011, 13:09   #139
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right on there, anjou---sometimes the lure of a warmie in bed is a distraction that is a boatanchor type-- lol isnt in my cards....now i have a kat, bed is warm enough. warmer water will also fix that problem- and i only have to clean up after myself and boatworkers.LOL...simrad hydraulic steering and an egg timer -- and no one to get the last drop of my coffee but me...LOl.. sometimes the "fight" is half the fun!
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Old 13-01-2011, 14:01   #140
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The way I see it is
Men seeking a sailing companion face two problems 1 Finding a compatable woman for a relationship 2 finding a woman whos prepared to live the lifestyle.For a woman seeking the same, in many ways its harder but for some, once they realise there is no Prince Charming coming to rescue them, they go it alone and the sense of independence is so empowering, why would they then go and spoil it?
When I met my husband I had an 18 month child, going through a divorce and was back in university, after having left the Army. I told him that unless he could cook, clean and take care of kids I had no use for him in my life. We've been married for 27 years now. He is my gravy.

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Old 13-01-2011, 15:25   #141
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The way I see it is
Men seeking a sailing companion face two problems

1 Finding a compatable woman for a relationship

2 finding a woman whos prepared to live the lifestyle.
If it is to be a sailing companion then shouldn't the order be 2) before 1) ???

I think women overrate the 'relationship' part. A sailing companion is someone we go sailing with, not someone we seek relationship with. If we want relationship then we look for a (?) friend, lover, girlfriend, wife, partner, whatever.

The relationships at sea are simple. They have always been. One gives the orders, the rest obeys them.

Some of us happen to be sailing with their partners (wives, girlfriends, lovers) but whatever it could have to do with having a 'sailing companion' I would not know.

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Old 13-01-2011, 20:03   #142
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That sounds a lot like our breakdown. But I have decided to take a desiel engine course.

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I love the choice of words - "sailing companion" - used by the ladies. Whereas the men use the word "partner (wives, girlfriends, lovers)" Definitely two different outlooks on cruising intentions.
- - To quote a famous corporate raider - "If I wanted a companion I would get a dog." Or maybe better applied to cruising people and cruising boats a "companion" would be a same gender buddy/friend.
- - Just a "WAG" (wild assed guess) but the use of "companion" connotes no physical intimacy in the relationship. They are just looking for some "muscle" for winch and windlass cranking.
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i have repeatedly used the term sailpartner/cruisepartner.... i have never used thr term companion. i AM female.
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OK, heres's another data point: Ann and I have been cruising full time since 1986, married since 1988. Seem to still like the life and each other. Sometimes it ain't easy, but then, who said it should be easy?

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Maybe the first date should involve sitting together in a cupboard?

If she is still talking to ya after 12 hours then you probably have a keeper

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Old 14-01-2011, 06:11   #147
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Maybe the first date should involve sitting together in a cupboard?

If she is still talking to ya after 12 hours then you probably have a keeper

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I've been married 28 years and if I had to do this I don't know if we would be talking to each other for a while.
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Maybe the first date should involve sitting together in a cupboard?
If she is still talking to ya after 12 hours then you probably have a keeper Just sayin'
Or maybe people should be honest rather than assuming that because there is a physical attraction that both people want the same things. It is very easy to overlook the other person's views or think that one can change the other.

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Hi all,

I am happily married for six years but together for 18+ (still newlyweds)! He is my best friend, lover, consultant, partner, and mate; partners and a team whether in the kitchen/galley, working on a project, shopping, sailing, navigating, traveling, etc. We are together 365/7/24 99% of year.

As several others posted (or implied), we compliment one another with our personalities and outlooks. (I tease him about still "amazing and dazzling me" after so many years.) The small "closet-like space confines" of a boat is comforting rather than disturbing. It is an adjustment that can be difficult to make for some people.

Adding to Anjou's list: security. As cruisers do folks grasp the need or the degree to which their "partner/mate/companion" needs to feel secure? It was a huge issue for me when we began sailing offshore and I (10+ yrs) have met few men with whom I'd leave shore with for a day sail, let alone hop aboard "to coast into the sunset" for an undetermined length of time.


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My name is Joni (Captjo) and was born and raised in the good old USA...been cruising with hubby of 40 years.
Love it! I am an old salt and taught my old Georgia boy how to sail years ago. Created a great skipper!

But that's me..."Fair Winds and Following Seas".....see ya' out there!
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