|
|
13-01-2011, 05:42
|
#136
|
Registered User
Join Date: Aug 2009
Location: between the devil and the deep blue sea
Boat: a sailing boat
Posts: 20,437
|
Yes. This is also an interesting take: I can see many more long term (committed or not) relationships among the long term cruisers that newly weds. Probably people of either sex who cannot keep their comittments simply drop out from this sport.
(?)
b.
|
|
|
13-01-2011, 10:58
|
#137
|
cat herder, extreme blacksheep
Join Date: Jul 2008
Location: furycame alley , tropics, mexico for now
Boat: 1976 FORMOSA yankee clipper 41
Posts: 18,967
|
Quote:
Originally Posted by Tom and Maje
Probably not a good assumption on this forum.
Maje
|
AMEN!!
|
|
|
13-01-2011, 11:27
|
#138
|
Registered User
Join Date: Apr 2009
Location: Malvernshire, on the sunny side of the hill.
Boat: 50' steel canal and river cruiser
Posts: 1,905
|
The way I see it is
Men seeking a sailing companion face two problems
1 Finding a compatable woman for a relationship
2 finding a woman whos prepared to live the lifestyle.
For a woman seeking the same, in many ways its harder but for some, once they realise there is no Prince Charming coming to rescue them, they go it alone and the sense of independence is so empowering, why would they then go and spoil it?
|
|
|
13-01-2011, 12:09
|
#139
|
cat herder, extreme blacksheep
Join Date: Jul 2008
Location: furycame alley , tropics, mexico for now
Boat: 1976 FORMOSA yankee clipper 41
Posts: 18,967
|
right on there, anjou---sometimes the lure of a warmie in bed is a distraction that is a boatanchor type-- lol isnt in my cards....now i have a kat, bed is warm enough. warmer water will also fix that problem- and i only have to clean up after myself and boatworkers.LOL...simrad hydraulic steering and an egg timer -- and no one to get the last drop of my coffee but me...LOl.. sometimes the "fight" is half the fun!
|
|
|
13-01-2011, 13:01
|
#140
|
Registered User
Join Date: Oct 2008
Location: Cruising the southern coast of Portugal and Spain
Boat: Leopard 40
Posts: 761
|
Quote:
Originally Posted by anjou
The way I see it is
Men seeking a sailing companion face two problems 1 Finding a compatable woman for a relationship 2 finding a woman whos prepared to live the lifestyle.For a woman seeking the same, in many ways its harder but for some, once they realise there is no Prince Charming coming to rescue them, they go it alone and the sense of independence is so empowering, why would they then go and spoil it?
|
When I met my husband I had an 18 month child, going through a divorce and was back in university, after having left the Army. I told him that unless he could cook, clean and take care of kids I had no use for him in my life. We've been married for 27 years now. He is my gravy.
Maje
|
|
|
13-01-2011, 14:25
|
#141
|
Registered User
Join Date: Aug 2009
Location: between the devil and the deep blue sea
Boat: a sailing boat
Posts: 20,437
|
Quote:
Originally Posted by anjou
The way I see it is
Men seeking a sailing companion face two problems
1 Finding a compatable woman for a relationship
2 finding a woman whos prepared to live the lifestyle.
|
If it is to be a sailing companion then shouldn't the order be 2) before 1) ???
I think women overrate the 'relationship' part. A sailing companion is someone we go sailing with, not someone we seek relationship with. If we want relationship then we look for a (?) friend, lover, girlfriend, wife, partner, whatever.
The relationships at sea are simple. They have always been. One gives the orders, the rest obeys them.
Some of us happen to be sailing with their partners (wives, girlfriends, lovers) but whatever it could have to do with having a 'sailing companion' I would not know.
barnie
|
|
|
13-01-2011, 19:03
|
#142
|
Registered User
Join Date: Oct 2010
Location: Kansas City, MO
Boat: In the hunt again, unknown
Posts: 1,331
|
Quote:
Originally Posted by Tom and Maje
That sounds a lot like our breakdown. But I have decided to take a desiel engine course.
Maje
|
Love diesels, simple little buggers, but they have lots of power. I need a refresher too, but it can wait for another day.
|
|
|
13-01-2011, 19:09
|
#143
|
Registered User
Join Date: Feb 2009
Location: A real life Zombie from FL
Boat: Gulfstar 53 - Osiris
Posts: 5,416
|
I love the choice of words - "sailing companion" - used by the ladies. Whereas the men use the word "partner (wives, girlfriends, lovers)" Definitely two different outlooks on cruising intentions.
- - To quote a famous corporate raider - "If I wanted a companion I would get a dog." Or maybe better applied to cruising people and cruising boats a "companion" would be a same gender buddy/friend.
- - Just a "WAG" (wild assed guess) but the use of "companion" connotes no physical intimacy in the relationship. They are just looking for some "muscle" for winch and windlass cranking.
|
|
|
13-01-2011, 19:35
|
#144
|
cat herder, extreme blacksheep
Join Date: Jul 2008
Location: furycame alley , tropics, mexico for now
Boat: 1976 FORMOSA yankee clipper 41
Posts: 18,967
|
i have repeatedly used the term sailpartner/cruisepartner.... i have never used thr term companion. i AM female.
|
|
|
14-01-2011, 02:32
|
#145
|
Moderator
Join Date: May 2008
Location: cruising SW Pacific
Boat: Jon Sayer 1-off 46 ft fract rig sloop strip plank in W Red Cedar
Posts: 21,185
|
OK, heres's another data point: Ann and I have been cruising full time since 1986, married since 1988. Seem to still like the life and each other. Sometimes it ain't easy, but then, who said it should be easy?
Cheers,
Jim and Ann s/v Insatiable II lying Towlers Bay NSW, Oz
__________________
Jim and Ann s/v Insatiable II, lying Port Cygnet Tasmania once again.
|
|
|
14-01-2011, 04:42
|
#146
|
Armchair Bucketeer
Join Date: Oct 2006
Posts: 10,012
|
Maybe the first date should involve sitting together in a cupboard?
If she is still talking to ya after 12 hours then you probably have a keeper
Just sayin'
|
|
|
14-01-2011, 05:11
|
#147
|
CLOD
Join Date: Jul 2007
Location: being planted in Jacksonville Fl
Boat: none
Posts: 20,415
|
Quote:
Originally Posted by David_Old_Jersey
Maybe the first date should involve sitting together in a cupboard?
If she is still talking to ya after 12 hours then you probably have a keeper
Just sayin'
|
I've been married 28 years and if I had to do this I don't know if we would be talking to each other for a while.
|
|
|
14-01-2011, 05:15
|
#148
|
Registered User
Join Date: Oct 2008
Location: Cruising the southern coast of Portugal and Spain
Boat: Leopard 40
Posts: 761
|
Quote:
Originally Posted by David_Old_Jersey
Maybe the first date should involve sitting together in a cupboard?
If she is still talking to ya after 12 hours then you probably have a keeper Just sayin'
|
Or maybe people should be honest rather than assuming that because there is a physical attraction that both people want the same things. It is very easy to overlook the other person's views or think that one can change the other.
Maje
|
|
|
14-01-2011, 06:30
|
#149
|
Registered User
Join Date: Dec 2010
Location: United States
Boat: 50' sloop
Posts: 54
|
Hi all,
I am happily married for six years but together for 18+ (still newlyweds)! He is my best friend, lover, consultant, partner, and mate; partners and a team whether in the kitchen/galley, working on a project, shopping, sailing, navigating, traveling, etc. We are together 365/7/24 99% of year.
As several others posted (or implied), we compliment one another with our personalities and outlooks. (I tease him about still "amazing and dazzling me" after so many years.) The small "closet-like space confines" of a boat is comforting rather than disturbing. It is an adjustment that can be difficult to make for some people.
Adding to Anjou's list: security. As cruisers do folks grasp the need or the degree to which their "partner/mate/companion" needs to feel secure? It was a huge issue for me when we began sailing offshore and I (10+ yrs) have met few men with whom I'd leave shore with for a day sail, let alone hop aboard "to coast into the sunset" for an undetermined length of time.
SM
|
|
|
14-01-2011, 07:22
|
#150
|
Registered User
Join Date: Jan 2008
Location: Summerville, SC
Boat: 32' Challenger - Feelin' Nauti
Posts: 11
|
My name is Joni (Captjo) and was born and raised in the good old USA...been cruising with hubby of 40 years.
Love it! I am an old salt and taught my old Georgia boy how to sail years ago. Created a great skipper!
But that's me..."Fair Winds and Following Seas".....see ya' out there!
|
|
|
|
|
Thread Tools |
Search this Thread |
|
|
Display Modes |
Rate This Thread |
Linear Mode
|
|
Posting Rules
|
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts
HTML code is Off
|
|
|
|
Advertise Here
Recent Discussions |
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
Vendor Spotlight |
|
|
|
|
|