I have a foreign born wife that knew going into the marriage that I have a sailboat and would one day become one of the non-racing rats. She also got motion sickness very easily and I've seen her over the railing a few times as we sailed about. But I had a plan to convince her that sailing as a lifestyle should be an option for her.
I chartered a 40 FP Catamaran
in Phuket Thailand
for a pretty reasonable rate. We paired up with my friend and his wife for a 5 day cruising vacation
around the postcard pictured islands of Thailand
. I brought along many different forms of meds for motion sickness so she could deal with that and enjoy the time on board. We had a great time sailing, motoring, snorkeling and sleeping under the stars on the forward trampoline.
My best mate would sit in the chair, disengage the autopilot
and sail. I loved the look on her face as she would sit at the helm
in full command of this vessel. I taught her some basic terms ("why do they call ropes sheets
when the sails
look more like bedding?") and some seamanship. She loved having that boat at her command and just the wind
to push us along. The more she learned the more she understood. After the first day she was off the meds and had her sea legs so the motion sickness wasn't a factor anymore. It was one of the most relaxing and enjoyable times we've ever spent together. It was freedom pure and simple.
The last day we motored into the slip after fueling up and everyone was pretty somber. The ride back to our hotel
on the other side of Phuket was a quiet ride ending - we were all just thinking about the last 5 days, we didn't need words right now.
After checking into our hotel
and settling in our room my wife/skipper sat across from me on the bed
, with a seriousness in her eyes I've never seen before, she said, "Ok, I know why you love sailing so much. Where are we at NOW and how long will it take to get THERE?"
At that moment, my wife was and remains completely sold on sailing although she wants the comfort of a catamaran
. I don't have a problem with that.
is not far from Thailand so you could make the journey to give your future wife an idea of what this means to you. It worked for me and I highly recommend letting her experience sailing for herself. The outcome may just surprise you.