On one hand, the captain’s word is law, but there should be a further consideration, i.e., how the captain’s decisions will affect the health
(mental or otherwise) of the crew.
However, what is not being put out in the open here is the captain’s comfort level with regards to the engine’s reliability
, and the possibility that “something” might go wrong, as well as his/her ability to comfortably deal with the complications that may be encountered while trying to put things right. It should also be noted that especially when it comes to traveling on the water
, we all have our own comfort levels, as well as a concern for the others onboard.
While not knowing all the facts, this isn’t necessarily a situation of right and wrong, or that the “captain’s word is law.” However, it is a circumstance where the daughter-in-law needs take a moment to appreciate the feelings of the skipper
and why he made the decision not to include her and the toddler.
Though all went well with the passage
, what would have been the possible outcomes if something went terribly wrong? In this and in all situations, it should be remembered that we are human beings, not robots, and accordingly, have to live with our own emotions, as well as understand and/or appreciate the feelings of others.
Finally, it should be noted that the skipper
was sensitive enough and sufficiently concerned about the daughter-in-law’s feelings that he presented this situation on an open forum.