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Old 02-07-2013, 23:37   #1
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Admiral?

Can someone please explain the 'Admiral' thing to me? I don't understand why all the men are referring to their wives as Admiral. Is it respectful? Akin to 'ball and chain'? Something in between?
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Old 02-07-2013, 23:40   #2
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Re: Admiral?

Well, speaking militarily, the Admiral is the highest ranking officer. The guy is usually called Captain or Skipper, but an Admiral always out ranks the Captain.

That being said, the Captain is the one responsible for the crew and the vessel.
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Old 02-07-2013, 23:56   #3
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Can someone please explain the 'Admiral' thing to me? I don't understand why all the men are referring to their wives as Admiral. Is it respectful? Akin to 'ball and chain'? Something in between?
Plain patronising.
Haven't come across a woman yet who likes the term.
No idea why men here persist in using it .
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Plain patronising.
Haven't come across a woman yet who likes the term.
No idea why men here persist in using it .
Interesting, though I've never used the term, I assumed it was respectful. A way of light heartedly balancing some tricky dynamics on a boat.
Since generally it is a guy who has purchased boat previously if not together and also generally the guy who tends to the engine maintenance, toilet maintenance etc...
I understood it to be a somewhat deferential way to defuse that, as the admiral is ranked above a captain but does not need the same day to day closeness with the vessel in question to be deserving of respect, and to be a higher level decision maker.
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Interesting, though I've never used the term, I assumed it was respectful. A way of light heartedly balancing some tricky dynamics on a boat.
Since generally it is a guy who has purchased boat previously if not together and also generally the guy who tends to the engine maintenance, toilet maintenance etc...
I understood it to be a somewhat deferential way to defuse that, as the admiral is ranked above a captain but does not need the same day to day closeness with the vessel in question to be deserving of respect, and to be a higher level decision maker.
I have tended to give most men the benefit of the doubt with their use of this term . Often though, anyone with higher decision making rights is resented rather than respected.

I haven't come across any women that like this term.
Will be interesting to see what feedback comes in from other female CF members.
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Old 03-07-2013, 00:44   #6
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Only speaking for myself, I never used it in a derogatory way. I have the utmost respect and love for my wife. She is my world. So, it has only been used in an affectionate context.
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Never called Connie Admiral, she's always been the First mate!! Is that a bad one also??? Im old and don't know all this political correct stuff !!!
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My wife is known as "Cynthia, Queen of the pirates!". She loves that! Cyn is honored, respected, and an equal partner in every way. She was the first and as far as I know the only female Bering sea crab skipper.
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Hello all,
well I think calling the wife Admiral or first mate is "not of any great concern but just to be shore I will check with "She who must be obeyed " and get her opinion. Actually better check with the dog as well as I tend to call it the scurvy mongrel Just something else I remembered on land, at home I often refer to my wife as the "minister for war and finance" I still love her to death though
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I have tended to give most men the benefit of the doubt with their use of this term . Often though, anyone with higher decision making rights is resented rather than respected.

I haven't come across any women that like this term.
Will be interesting to see what feedback comes in from other female CF members.
I am unclear on how it can both receive the benefit of the doubt AND be found as derogatory?

Btw as one abut to embark on his 'maiden' voyage alone, I hope to one day have aboard someone who can 'admirably' fetch me ale! Jk
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Hello all,
well I think calling the wife Admiral or first mate is "not of any great concern but just to be shore I will check with "She who must be obeyed " and get her opinion. Actually better check with the dog as well as I tend to call it the scurvy mongrel Just something else I remembered on land, at home I often refer to my wife as the "minister for war and finance" I still love her to death though
Funny!

I'm the 1st mate, but I might like admiral better!
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so all you wives/girlfriends/women out there ........................ what do what to be called?
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Re: Admiral?

I think it can be read either way, depends on context used.

FWIW, I tend to read it as meaning a wife (or Partner) who is not really so much into the sailing / boating end of things - at least not hands on (i.e. if Hubby as Skipper went glug they too would likely be in the doodah!). And I don't read anything bad into that.

I guess the Admiral tag also says that the wife has the final say (as they often do!, boat or not!) or is at least an easy excuse to deploy (that is readily accepted!) when saying no or feeling that own choices made need to be justified to others.

Of course I may be overthinking!, for some I am sure it is simply because Admiral sounds nautical and looks better on a hat than galley slave!
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I am unclear on how it can both receive the benefit of the doubt AND be found as derogatory?
Have you had many dealings with women?
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Re: Admiral?

In most relationships both partners know who thinks he is the boss and who really is. So, the title of admiral is an affectionate and lightheartedly humorous title without actually being sarcastic or derogatory. Most seagoing women like the title (never met one that didn't) and when most non-boating women hear it for the first time they 'get it'.
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